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Old Feb 13, 2023, 07:50 PM
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I had a college classmate who dated a man (for few months) whose wife was pregnant on a bed rest. When she started insisting that they can’t always meet in restaurants and parks and she lived in a dorm and that she wanted to come to his house. He then immediately stopped answering her phone calls. She found his address and drove to his house and that’s how she found out. She was so madly in love and none of us suspected anything.

I better stop. I know too many stories with similar outcome
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Old Feb 13, 2023, 08:46 PM
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I get it, I do. He and his ex are broken up. He claims he fell asleep. I don't know. He messaged at 8 pm, when he was supposed to be here at 6. Maybe I'm getting too **** in my old age. lol.
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Old Feb 13, 2023, 09:28 PM
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It actually could be true. Might not be in a relationship. If he worked till 8pm yesterday and then all day today, passing out after work isn’t unusual.

It’s for the best. Unless he is very young I don’t see how he’d be able to have any decent kind of intimacy. He needs to rest. And if he works tomorrow too, forget it.

I’d wait when he’s off work if you want to continue. He really might not be a liar.
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 05:42 AM
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I don't think he's a liar. He came over at 9 pm instead for a couple hours. It was really nice. I believe him when he tells me he and his gf are broken up.

At least he did not ruin my Valentines Day.... I am glad for that.
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 06:43 AM
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something that helped me when I was struggling...."Try to let the side of you that is trying to save yourself......win."
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 06:57 AM
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something that helped me when I was struggling...."Try to let the side of you that is trying to save yourself......win."
Yes, I remember this quote and I have held onto it this whole time. In fact, it's helped to keep me grounded in my reality and to stay the course, so thank you!!!!
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 07:46 AM
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I just bought myself a dozen roses and some chocolate. If I can't be with someone today, then I will spoil and treat myself!
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 09:53 AM
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WOW. Happy Valentines Day to me. I was supposed to hang out last night, then tonight with a guy. We slept together years ago when I was single. We were both looking forward to being intimate again. Last night, he got derailed by his work for 3 hours. He was supposed to come over at 5, then by 8 pm he will still working, so I bailed. And tonight, we made definite plans for him to come over, but he's totally blowing me off! I've sent several messages, and he didn't reply to any of them. By 5:55 (he was supposed. to be here at 6), I told him it's so rude of him to blow me off like this, I called him a pri*ck, and told him we're never sleeping together ever again.

I am SO PISSE*D.

And poetic justice that it's nearly V Day. WHY are SO many bad things happening to me?!?!??!?!
Wow! I’m sorry that he stood you up. Good to have strong boundaries. Do something nice for yourself.
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 10:00 AM
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Wow! I’m sorry that he stood you up. Good to have strong boundaries. Do something nice for yourself.
He showed up, but very late! I did do something nice for myself today!
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 10:04 AM
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He showed up, but very late! I did do something nice for myself today!
That is amazing that you’re doing something nice for yourself.
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Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live.

This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak.

In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living.

Like love, it's how we know we're alive.

And life goes on.

That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 12:18 PM
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I actually feel very suicidal right now. I cannot take anymore crap. I am so done with life, my life, and I am so tired of living through HELL.
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 12:49 PM
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Dont take a permanent solution to a temporary problem
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 01:15 PM
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I actually feel very suicidal right now. I cannot take anymore crap. I am so done with life, my life, and I am so tired of living through HELL.
Please don’t harm yourself. I understand how you feel because I been there myself.
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Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live.

This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak.

In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living.

Like love, it's how we know we're alive.

And life goes on.

That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 01:24 PM
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Thank you....

I am so depressed. Wow, am I depressed. I reached out to my husband asking him if he will take my cat should something happen to me.

I am at all time low. Suicide seems to be the one answer that would for certain put me out of my misery - and for good. My life has been one long misfortune.
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 03:19 PM
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Please dont hurt yourself Hope
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 03:21 PM
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*willowtigger takes everything thats a danger away from Have Hope cause Have Hope does not deserve to become dead*
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 03:22 PM
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Nobody wants a Have Hope to be dead
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 04:39 PM
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Thank you @willowtigger.

I am literally at the end of my rope.
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 04:43 PM
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*takes the literal rope away and replaces it with a chocolate cake with extra magic sprinkles*

Magic sprinkles mean Hope gets anything she wants
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 04:44 PM
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Take yourself to the hospital now. Since you already making plans, you need to take yourself to safety ASAP. Like right now

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Old Feb 14, 2023, 04:47 PM
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I cannot live this life anymore. I got rejected from the suicide forum I tried to get on. Even they don't want me. And here's my husband, begging and pleading again, trying to make his case. I am in sheer HELL. Absolute HELL.
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 04:53 PM
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Take yourself to the hospital now. Since you already making plans, you need to take yourself to safety ASAP. Like right now
I'm not in danger anymore. My best gf talked me off the ledge.
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 04:54 PM
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I cannot live this life anymore. I got rejected from the suicide forum I tried to get on. Even they don't want me. And here's my husband, begging and pleading again, trying to make his case. I am in sheer HELL. Absolute HELL.
I thought he was blocked. Why is he pleading? Did you tell him you want to die?

Go to the hospital. As Luna said it’s a temporary situation like loss of a job and divorce. But if you cannot handle it and plan on killing yourself, hospital is the place to go.
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I cannot live this life anymore. I got rejected from the suicide forum I tried to get on. Even they don't want me. And here's my husband, begging and pleading again, trying to make his case. I am in sheer HELL. Absolute HELL.
Its a good thing the suicide forum on the internets rejected you, when i was on there years ago the admins there was horrible bullies and made me much worse

Please get real life help
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Old Feb 14, 2023, 04:56 PM
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Its a good thing the suicide forum on the internets rejected you, when i was on there years ago the admins there was horrible bullies and made me much worse

Please get real life help
She said they are the ones providing poison to people (how is it even legal???). I’d not expect them to be helpful with something else
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