Should I tell my picky friends that I’m upset with them or not?

I don’t think it’s fair to judge people for being broke or sick. It can’t really be a requirement in friends especially if you are about to lose your house and don’t work. And you have a long list of illnesses. Not fair to judge people that harshly especially if you yourself struggle with the same things. But other stuff I agree about. If you don’t want them as friends, it’s ok to end it

I’m not trying to be mean or judgemental, but I actually have been friends with people who are broke &
and or sick & trust me, hearing about their health issues & money all the time is draining. I tried to bevsupportive, but it’s exhausting! And I dislike being asked for rides & not even offered gas money too. Broke people tend to be users.

I had it with the women who ONLY talked about their health issues In detail. They could’ve easily talked about other things, but they CHOSE to focus on THEMSELVES only.

Do you now understand why I can’t stand to be around sick people? They are all about me, me, me & so negative. I resent being used as a free therapist!

As for the broke ones, do you recall that loser mooch who used my friend & I? Disgusting! Other broke friends pressured me into buying their MLM cheap crap. No thanks! Other women were jealous of me who weren’t as well off.

I think that was a bad experience Jesyka but I hope you won’t judge others harshly who don’t have a good income because you might miss out on some fantastic people.

One of my colleagues doesn’t have much money, she works part time to top up benefits, but she is amazingly resourceful in how she manages her money, she doesn’t mooch at all, there’s many people like her. People might not have money to go out but you can have coffee at each other’s houses, go for walks etc, all sorts of lovely fun low cost options.

There are many things people can do that don’t involve spending money-if they are true friends and value each other, but can’t afford things. Free events, free fairs and concerts in the summer, walk in the park, sit outside, visit each other etc

You seem to equate friendships with going out to eat or attend events that cost money. It’s all good but it’s not requirement for friendships. It’s more like a requirement for activity partners. Like specific “restaurant going group”. Your understanding of actual friendships is a bit different than most

Also something just doesn’t add up. You owe IRS money, have no savings for old age, can’t pay mortgage and could potentially end up homeless. Yet you are saying people are jealous of you because you are more well off. It makes no sense. Why would they be jealous? Just because you continue spending money you can’t afford to spend, doesn’t make you “less broke”.

As about sickness you said you are so very sick that you cannot work. So you are a very ill person. How can you judge people for being sick, it seems strange to me. Anyone can get sick at any time. Would you dump them as friends, even though you yourself very unwell?

I understand that. I’m actually meeting a new aquaintence today for frozen food yogurt. This will be the third time meeting her.

She can’t afford much, but that’s OK.

I have went out for walks with friends & went to their homes to hang out. You’re wrong about your assumptions. I do enjoy going out though.

I don’t expect to go to fancy places. I’m meeting a new aquaintence fir the 3rd time today for frozen yogurt as that’s all that she can afford for now.

I’m fine with that. What I was trying to say is that I can’t stand these sick people because all they literally do is whine about their health issues.

They could talk about other things, but they deliberately choose NOT to! They are so selfish & annoying. They all want a free therapist it seens like, NOT a friend.

I blocked & deleted women like that after meetung them. I have no interest in being used as a free therapist. They didn’t even bother to ask me a single question about myself

Rude! I don’t need friends that badly, lol! I’m empathetic, but not stupid.

I have my own isdues, but I’m not so sick that I can’t go out & have fun. It sounds like you think that I shoukd always stay home & not soend a single penny.

I need to get out or I’ll go crazy from stress & depression . I normally don’t go out more than twice a month. I don’t think that’s excessive.

I have mentioned going to inexpensive places too most of the time like matinees. I don’t understand why you think I should never go out or never soend any money ever. We obviously have issues, but spending less than $10 at the movies isn’t going to make a huge difference with getting us out of debt or more into debt.

What am I supposed to do, sit & home & be miserable? Also, should I just accept anyone into my life? It sounds like you think I should accept anyone who’ll give me the time of day which I don’t agree with at all.

I never said you should just sit home or don’t spend money. I am saying you really shouldn’t judge people who are broke or sick. And this is mental health forum yet you verbatim said you can’t stand sick people. Many on here have mental or physical illness. If you can’t stand sick people, this isn’t the right forum plus you can get sick any time. That’s mostly not in our control.

And this just isn’t fair. You said you are too sick to work yet don’t think people are allowed to be too sick to go out.

I never said you should accept everyone. In fact I encourage you to cut ties with people you actively dislike. I just don’t think you should judge people for financial and health problems. No you don’t need to be friends with people you dislike

Sorry for the misunderstanding. What I meant is that I can’t stand sick people who are selfish. I gave clear examples of that. I’m empathetic & understanding l. I’m not against sick people.

A good friend of mine has an autoimmune disorder on top of having issues with depression & anxiety. And two new aquaintences of mine have health issues too. One has depression & anxiety issues too. The other one has a few different issues.

She’s using a cane now too. Another lady has a slight handicap with her hands. She also has a fear of heights too. So obviously I am fine with being friends with sick & disabled people l. Just not the whiny self centered ones.

Again, I only can’t stand the ones who only talk about their health issues. I seem to attract those types for some reason.

Most people I know are also broke too. I just don’t like the mooches or the cheap penny pincher types. Yesterday this new aquaintence who doesn’t have a lot of money treated me to lunch which was nice.

It was a fast food meal & she insisted on paying even though I said ithat I’ll pay for my own stuff. She kept insisting, so I let her pay for things. Perhaps my luck is changing. Hopefully it’ll change.

I don’t want to be used as a free therapist. Especially when those people never ask me how I’m doing. Everything is all about their illness. They don’t bothrr talking about anything light ever & it’s extremely annoying & selfish.