I keep having dreams where I am being kidnapped and to keep the kidnappers happy, I allow them to touch me! But I also get pleasure from this touching. Does anyone else get this?

[DePressMe]

Hi Mouse. You are not alone. Sometimes I have dreams about sex that is "wrong" and sometimes I dream that I do enjoy it. Durring my abuse--when I was older and started having sexual urges--I did start to physically react to the abuse--sometimes liking parts of it although I knew it was worng (yuck). I think that is what causes my dreams. For awhile I felt guilty about enjoying parts of the abuse---that just felt so sickening...but, my T told me it is common for the body to react like that, depending on the situation. I had a tough time getting over that part of the abuse...it made me feel like I was partially responsible for it. That is NOT true. I am not saying this is what is causing your dreams---it is just what I experienced---everybody's story is different.

[Perna]

We need other humans and touch is required for life and sex is supposed to be pleasurable. That's how we're put together, how our "animal" parts work. Don't get your head and heart in there! You see the difficulties you have now from relations 30+ years ago; that is not right! Nothing about those relations can be your fault, you were too young. Nothing about the difficulties you have now are "enjoyable" are they?

Our body has sex dreams from teen years up and they are usually enjoyable because sex is supposed to be enjoyable. These dreams now just happen to have "kidnappers" in them. Being kidnapped is not enjoyable. Separate it out the same way.

I'm wondering if sex even means sex in dreams??? I'm sure it must be some sort of metaphor???

probley depends on what it meant for you. Sometimes in dreams it means shame, exposure, rejection for me.

Thats interesting EV, thanks HHhmmmm need to give this some thought.

just another thought. it also meant being special, feeling powerless, being the subordinate versus the dominant person, and being bad. I think those are all common themes that play out for me.

ooooooohhhhhhhh I think I may know what it means now :-(

((((((((((((mouse))))))))))... stay safe..

[InACorner]

you know..i used to have dreams i was being raped by my mother and stepdad and alot of others still do....and i was so deeply ashamed that i would have a dream like that about my real mother and stuff...very embarassing but i read somewhere that its not about sex at all....i read that we all know sex is intimate...sex is about trust and love and commitment...and that if i was having a dream my mom was raping me...having sex with me..that i wanted her approval ...i wanted to trust her and i wanted her to love me...and to share with each other a love....but it formed into the rape because she took that wanting away..she took my desires of a motherly love away from me....do you know those who kidnapped you? Maybe next time in the dream concentrate on their faces if you dont know now....maybe its someone you know...or never expected...

inny this really bizzare

i had a very similar kind of dream last night and i remember telling my mum to stop and she was laughing. its horrible and i never had that kind of dream i think maybe it's because i'm posting a lot and trying to establish a relationship with her again idk.

i hate dreams like this, they tend to affect me for a while.
quite disturbing.

love jinny

Those that kidnapped me were just man, or rather a man. The dominant side of my charactor, and me submitting by allowing the man to touch me and me enjoy the pleasure adn the manipulation of my move was I think me trying to find some control over a situation in daylight hours that I was finding hard. That I had no control over, but in my dreams I resolved this powerlessness by suducing my dominant part. In my dreams, I won, I over come.

Do you feel positive after that dream? I think allot of women start to use seduction to gain power over men because of past abuse. If you can't escape it, use it to make them grovel... I can definately relate to that thinking. I think though maybe there is another level of overcoming that experience. The power to chose to walk away. The power to chose those who are in our lives and the relationship we have with them. Hopefully I get there.