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That's pretty freaking disturbing! I can't understand what he's trying to achieve here. I agree that it sounds as if he's belittling your thoughts about wishing to die, and it's also a really weird way to go about it. Is he trying to get you to motivate why you don't want to kill yourself? If so he's not being very good at conveying that that's what he is doing, right?

Seriously, this guy sounds too weird.

Do therapists normally use this kind of method? I'm not sure what he wants to accomplish.

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I did not have a skip-it.

I did it today. I confessed the biggest, darkest, secret-est thing to T. She handled it (and me) really well. I'm right proud of her.

I understand now why T said that as a T, you can only take someone as far as you have been yourself. I really get it.

From your tone - as far as i can deduce from reading it here - you are sounding pretty serious about your "failings". I think your t is choosing NOT to confront you with an argument as to why you are wrong in your thinking. He is more encouraging you to take your thoughts to their logical conclusion? I.e., just to think them out, follow your train of thought - if you keep contradicting them, you simply become better at arguing with yourself, at having this argument - "i'm dumb! No you arent! Yes i am!" Better at going around in circles. I think he's trying to get you out of that loop. Do all ts do that in exactly that way? Well - do all clients do that in exactly that way? And are all clients as smart as you are - and are all ts? Lots of variables there!

I feel like I should clarify that I don't really want to die and that I don't want to kill myself. But I do get intense thoughts about that I should just die and that I "want" to do so when I for example fail things.

Ok so during my therapy session today my therapist and I talked a lot about my fear of failing and things like that. Here's an excerpt:

T: how would you feel if that happened? What would you do? Would you kill yourself?
Me: I would probably feel like dying, yes. I mean, I wouldn't do it but I'd really hate myself and I'd probably want to die.
T: then maybe you should just do it? Perhaps you should kill yourself?
Me: no.

His tone of voice suggested that he was being serious but that he didn't mean what he said (at least I think so). He does that a lot and a lot of the time I don't know if he's serious or not (in this case I think it's quite obvious he didn't mean it, since I doubt any sane therapist would encourage their client to take their own life). Anyway, is this some sort of legitimate method he's decided to use to make me realise how ridiculous (or whatever he thinks) my thoughts are or what? I don't get it. It puzzles me. It sort of makes it seem like he doesn't take me seriously all the time and I think it makes it seem like he belittles my thoughts.

What do you think?

(((jersey)))
Does it feel a bit less overwhelming now that you know what's going to happen?

(((granite)))
Keeping busy is good. I hope you'll have a good trip.

I've been booking trips like a whole herd of migrating mammoths, lately. I'm going to the UK in early February, and early March, and in mid-April, and possibly late April, and then to the UK and Ireland in August... and I've just realised that I'm not sure when my passport expires. I should check that when I get home. I have plenty of time to renew it before February, but I don't want to leave it until it's too late.
Hmm. No, I think I'm good, because I seem to remember that I had to get a new one when I travelled to the U.S. in 2007 (because my old passport had a tiny crack in one page), which means that that one expired in 2012, so I would have had to get a new passport then, and in that case I'm good for another three years. I know that in the U.S. lots of people don't have or need a passport, but from what I understand it's much more of a hassle to get one there.

Sorry, I babble. I'm trying not to be all disgustingly cheerful after this morning's T session.

I have agreed with W. Cat dies today.

I have agreed with W. Cat dies today.

I have agreed with W. Cat dies today.

I have agreed with W. Cat dies today.

wow this kind of stings but wow good for you and your t. I guess mine took me as far as she could the minute I told her my huge dark disgusting secrete

Granite...what you told her was not disgusting. She is just not exactly helping you. She doesn't hate you. She doesn't think you're gross. She thinks the way she is handling things will work. Her bad. Because they don't work and haven't worked. Not saying she's evil or horrid, just that she doesn't have what you need. Maybe it works well for zillions of other clients, that doesn't mean it will work for you. Not your fault. You are not bad.

oh cant I am so sorry . it is hard how old is the cat

Is it A-ha singing Take on Me?

Is it A-ha singing Take on Me?