Couch 157: Fair Value

(((LT))) now i want a sub!

I would have said, “Was it a salami sub?”

Good luck, art. Want me to sit in your pocket crunching mints?

I'm in your pocket Art, for sure. I hope your session goes as well as it can.

I love T2

Yes please!! Thinking of you doing that might be enough to keep me from getting all emotional!

Hmm. I am here outside t's and I hear her drumming inside.... preparation perhaps?? Never noticed that before...

Im hopping in quietly since your session just started...

Art, I know I'm late, but I've been told almost my entire life that I'm like the butler in Mr. Deeds: sneaky sneaky. So I theoretically could climb into your pocket and no one would notice.

In therapists and the American health insurance system are both terrible news, I got a letter today from my health insurance. The letter informed me that RoboT will no longer be in my network after 2017. Trust me, guys. I know.

i need lawyerly help, please. this has spun me out so bad bc i am already feeling REALLY terrible.

i got pulled over a few weeks ago bc my state inspection was overdue. it was a failure to comply ticket, and as long as i got the inspection done by the 14th (two days ago), it was fine. if i didn't get it done....my court date was tues at 10:30.

i got it done on friday, and had to call the courts to let them know i had it done. i tried a few times on monday, never getting ahold of anyone. i left a voicemail. i tried calling right when they opened on tues morning, and a few more times before m court date--leaving my inspection #. i got a voicemail wednesday saying i needed to fax it in.

faxed it in wednesday evening. just saw a voicemail from earlier today. the fax was too late, bc the court date was tues. i have to go down to court and do a motion to open my case again? and talk to the judge about why i missed it?

what on earth does that mean?

i also have Z-E-R-O time off from work, and they don't let you work wihtout being paid.

i would like to not be alive right now.

Hugs...I'm assuming your paperwork shows you had it done by the due date, right? That should be enough to prove that you're fine and keep you from getting in any trouble. It seems ridiculous for you to have to go to court for a traffic matter...Can you try calling the MVA/DMV, or was that who you were calling before?

No...it was the general district court.

UGH. I mean,it is just such bad effing timing.

Well guys, I am back home from t. Thanks for riding along Spangle, LT, NP, @@, luc, SoConfused, Daisy! I almost giggled at one point imagining crunching noises....

Anyway it went well. Better than I was imagining it might. Seems like we talked about a lot of stuff. I shared with her about the journey circle over the weekend and the insights I got mainly the "Maybe it's not about right or wrong" and how FREE that makes me feel, like I grew wings or something, my whole life I've been so fettered by black and white/right and wrong/do the right thing or else.... We talked again about taking the break and she asked if I wanted to schedule for a month from now or 2 months from now I said no, I don't really want to put a schedule on myself, I need to be able to let it happen, she said that's fine, that she just wanted to make sure we were both on the same page, she asked if it's to let things kind of gel, I said well partly but mostly, it's to see how life is not coming here. I said I might just come back to wrap things up, I don't know yet. She said she's okay with me not knowing right now. She said she thinks me coming the past 3 weeks in a row really helped me solidify stuff, I said yes absolutely. I can't right now remember what else we talked about... feels like there was a lot more.... anyway after I paid her she said I'll walk you out to your car, so she did and I tossed my purse and notebook in through the window then we hugged for way longer and tighter than usual and I said thank you for everything-everything and after we let go she stepped back a couple steps and we each did a little namaste bow thing to each other, then I got in my car and left.

And I didn't cry.

Yet.

Velcro - my best advice is don't take legal advice from strangers on the internet. I don't know your jurisdiction and this sort of thing can be very jurisdiction specific. Do you have attorneys who specialize in traffic law in your area (where I am --there are attorneys who specialize in handling tickets of all sorts) - if so - call a couple of them.
You could see how early the court/clerk opens up that handles your situation - again - around here - some start at 7:30 or 8 am - which could be before work.
Finally - don't just ignore it. In my jurisdiction (I do not know about your and am not giving you legal advice) they would issue a bench warrant and that is a real hassle as they arrest you and take you to the police department.

yeah, i talked to my boss tonight, and i am going into the clerk's office tomorrow when they open at 8:30, and go from there.

I am not asking specifically for advice, but if you have to ask for a motion to re-open a case, that seems lawyer-specific, right?

I don't know what you mean by lawyer specific

me either Sorry..i've had a few drinks. Either way, I will figure it out more tomorrow morning. I just...ugh.

I know this question should probably go elsewhere, but I feel more at home here on the couch.

Does anyone else hear the voice of their abuser? I had to revisit a transcript of an abusive incident from May and discussed it today in session. Later, when I was at the grocery store, I could hear one particular phrase over and over in my head. Just over and over while I was trying to buy food. Is that normal, to hear this voice in your head? I got really upset and anxious and had to sit in my car and cry for a while. I also made some really poor food choices while in this state. I'm feeling not really healthy mentally right now. Will this ever end?

ETA: I also emailed my therapist about this incident and I'm feeling super bad about myself that I did that.

(((NP)))

I've had this song stuck in my head for several days now and I can't stop singing it. I told h this morning and tried to get it stuck in his head too but he doesn't know it so it didn't work. So now I shall get it stuck in somebody's head here to share the wealth. I know at least one of my couchies will remember this.



Ah, they don't make 'em like that anymore do they??

I go through the same thing. So I’m guessing it’s normal.

I find writing them down and then shoving the paper deep into the back of a drawer useful. Like it banishes them for a bit. Of course there’s more where they came from...

I remember that. When we were in primary school there was a radio show called Sing Sing Sing and it taught you all about time sinatures and rythm and sch they also played I'm A Green Pea, Freeze Freee and

Yes, sometimes. Or sometimes see his face with that look. I'm thinking it's normal.

I'm sorry, NP. It sucks.

I think it gets better? It doesn't happen to me as often. I don't usually have nightmares any more. I'm glad you emailed your therapist. That's what he's there for.

Is it ok to havealittle wep about my daughter graduating and going off to uni, somehow it seems selfish because I am sad that I will miss her.

BCM, have at it. Of course it's ok. I cried when my oldest got married, and when she graduated university, and when she moved away. We can celebrate their successes with joy and be sad that it changes our lives and miss them deeply all at the same time.

P.S. I now have the roller skating in a buffalo herd song stuck in my head. Augh.

Woke up around 2 am and now it's almost 4 am, the sandman is nowhere in sight. I'm really going to regret this tomorrow. Good early morning couch!