Why did this rock star harass me?

It sounds like he made a sexual gesture because it made for good entertainment during his performance. I don’t know how to say why I think he sprayed some water on you in a polite way… If he gestured crotch in your face the water was to simulate his release.

I don’t see this as an assault. You were just in the wrong place, up close to the stage, and he thought doing this was funny. He didn’t touch you. A little flick of water isn’t an assault.

Maybe he had seen you before the show and targeted you during his act. Maybe he liked you and thought you would be a groupie and find him backstage. You did try to talk to him after, but didn’t want to wait for him.

It’s not very common to be married and asexual, as you mentioned here. I don’t mean to get overly personal, just thought you may have mentioned it because you might want to talk about that.

It must be frustrating to really not understand social communication. Have you talked to many people, asking about this incident that happened long ago? What did they all say? What do you think it all meant?

Ah! Clever. It makes sense. I am slow to reach such conclusions (and I had to look up the term groupie, ha!).

Maybe you’re right about what you said. I’m glad to hear that you also didn’t find this situation to be comical. It was vile & degrading.

I don’t understand the people on here who think thst this is funny. I doubt thst they’d think this was funny if this happened to them or someone they care about.

I did tell my husband & a few people about this & they thought he liked me but that he’s rude.

I’m sick of being disrespected & dismissed by most people. I think that I should just stop talking to people & to stay the hell away from people as much as possible from niw on. Most people are no good anyways.

I’ve had it with being mistreated & I’ve had it with everything else too. I give up.

No comment on the original poster's incident. What happened, happened. There's no going back. Only those that were there know their own intentions.

What I will address are a lot of other posters saying this kind of behavior from "rock stars" is "normal" or expected. I think some of that is true.... to a degree, depending on the act. I just want to separate those "rock stars" to REAL rock stars.

I have posted before how AC/DC and Rush are my two favorite bands. They are wildly popular and successful and I have seen both in concert many times. Not once did I ever see Brian Johnson or Geddy Lee resort to such childish tactics to swoon the ladies. Why? They don't need to (plus they're both happily married). They make / made their living by using their actual talent and that's why they sold out arenas, stadiums, and venues for decades. I could go on forever about how great those two bands are but I'd break the Internet nor do I want to hijack the discussion.

My point is is if you go to a performance and the singer / band member, etc. does these corny moves, ask for refund because you're seeing a bunch of talentless clowns.

Good points. I don’t think it’s normal or expected but rather that it happens a lot. It’s not extremely unusual and isn’t something they do because they are enamored with strangers or want sexual favors, it’s part of their performance. Gross? Yes. But does it mean it never happens? No

Oh I doubt he was the actual star. Small club with people coming so close up to the stage he could pour water on them? No way no how

It was a small venue. There were no barriers or security there. It definitely happened. He was literally inches away from me.

lol. They actually put on a great show. What that guy did was bizarre & stupid. I’m certain that other people in the audience were like wth is wrong with him? lol

And since no one actually laughed at what happened, I’m guessing that most of the people there were also shocked at what he did. I did hesr two people insult me though, ugh. So rude!