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I dont know how to stop this. When I get overwhelmed that is what I do. If I could just put some kind of thought between me and cutting. I had a disappointing thing happen to me today, it was a major trigger, but I could have not cut but I did. I do it in some kind of fog and it is a while before I realize that I could have not done it and I feel like a miserable failure. I just keep f***ing up. My feelings overwhelm me and I cant take it.
How can other people just be disappointed and sad and not SI. I want to be like them. |
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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I dont feel cared for ![]() And I want to cut.... |
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Sannah- I have wondered how she can say something to me that makes me feel so bad about myself. It wouldmake me feel so much better if she could just acknowledge that I am doing something to try. She believes Im not trying hard enough and still doing the behviors that keep me unhappy. What I think she doesnt get is that if I could I would. She believes I hve so much control over it all. She has said that to me.
I dont know how to find the right help. I really dont trust myself to make this decision no matter how many t's I interview. I wish someone else could interview the t's and make a decsion. I could make another mistake. I dont feel like she cares for me and I do feel not worthy of care- that is exactly how I feel and it makes me want to cut just to write it here. That must be a trigger b/c when I feel it I want to hurt myself. I believe everyone else on PC deserves care fron their therapists but who would want to take care of me? I should be ignored. makes me want to cry. |
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I think that past feelings are being triggered up for you. Your T is triggering it up but your feelings are mostly from a past time I'll bet. Your T sounds like she has no idea why people SI and that is why she cannot be helpful. Also, it sounds like she cannot really show that she cares because she is unable to get close to her clients. These are her issues. Her inability has nothing to do with you. I think that you are learning and what can you do but try? (Concerning trying to find a new T).
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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I think you are right. It is my past feelings. My t doesnt know what to do with me. And she cannot get close to her clients. At least not to me. If I dont feel, after 1 yr 5 mos that I can call her in a crisis, then something is wrong. I will always blame myself. And in a way, that protects me, too. If I see her as flawed, then who will help and protect me? Someone so flawed?
All of this is scary- but I did not cut tonight. Just this morning. I'll keep trying..... |
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It's not yourself, it is your ILLNESS which you may not be able to see but it is there, just like a physical illness, do not be hard on yourself
![]() What kinds of things happened in your past? I had a terrible past but the more I deal with it in my own way, the more I heal ![]() Can you get a new T- 1 that you feel comfrotable with- this is your RIGHT to proper treatment and healing, do not be afraid to stick up for yourself ![]()
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[quote=Junerain;1140640]It's not yourself, it is your ILLNESS which you may not be able to see but it is there, just like a physical illness, do not be hard on yourself
![]() That is a gentle way of lookinjg at it. My t has told me its a "juvenile" way of coping. But it hasnt stopped me. It seems like a rough approach. If I see it as an illness, then I feel less judged. Quote:
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Thanks Junerain- I am slowly learning which are things I should stick up for. I didnt know this t wasnt good for me (tho I had my suspicions) until recently. |
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I have heard it explained that people blame themselves because this gives them some power. They feel safer if they caused the problems because they have control over themselves. If someone else caused the problems they can't control that.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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[quoteI have heard it explained that people blame themselves because this gives them some power. They feel safer if they caused the problems because they have control over themselves. If someone else caused the problems they can't control that. [/quote]
That fits too. If I give myself the power to have been to blame, then I can fix it. But the sad thing is that I could not fix it. So maybe both are ture- I could fix it if I was to blame and it is more safe for it all to be my fault than the fault of someone I am supposed to depend on. If it is the fault of my mother, then who can I trust? Who will take care of me? That would be scarier than anything else. BUt childhood is over and now I can get help from someone I can trust to help me fix it. I am tryinjg to find that person. |
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I put the trigger icon on here, just in case.
Bluemoon, I don't know much of anything about SI, but I'm so sorry to hear that you're having such a difficult time. Have you thought about identifying just what is is you're feeling when you self-injure? Is there a momentary gain or escape? Maybe there is something else you can do instead? You will find your special therapist, Bluemoon. ![]() |
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I have to find my special therapist. I hope so. I hope so very very much. I dont know whether to go my t on monday. Im afraid if I dont go I'll feel worse and alone. That is something I could SI over- I didnt go and Im alone and abandoned. So- even if it isnt the greatest session, she does care about me and I feel it from her. I dont think I can afford (emotionally) not to go to therapy during the week. Then tues and wed I have interview appts. |
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