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I'm really, really ashamed of myself. Too ashamed to even say why, but I'm just so ashamed
I shouldn't have done what I did, I'm still doing it... and I shouldn't be.. it's bad... but I can't sop Thing is.. I KNOW it's bad and I KNOW I shouldn't be doing it... so I feel like I need to punish myself, maybe that will make me stop? Maybe hurting me will make me stop... Maybe feeling the pain, seeing the blood, letting it bleed... maybe that will be enough... I don't know... I don't know...
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and in a way it's nice to see your pain and feel it in physical form? there have been times i've thought about self-injury but i know in the end its hurting me more and won't help no matter how much it seem like it may. i know there is little chance that what i say will be something you haven't thought before/ something you don't already know but i have to anyways... it ain't worth it m'dear. i know it seems like it is, but it's really not. it's just a vicious cycle of doing it, feeling ashamed, and feeling like you should punish yourself in someway for it leading to doing it more. and it doesn't help when someone see's the marks/cuts. i'm sure you've heard it before, but find someone you trust and know and whenever you feel yourself going to that point of no return, call them/meet them/contact them in some way and just talk to them. be upfront and blunt with them about your feelings and just ask them to help you if they can. think about the way you'll feel and how satisfying it will feel when you know you've overcome that part of your past. ![]() i hope this has helped at least some. i gotta go. wish i could say more. e-mail me sometime ami. ![]() |
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Ashamed, There is only the thought that physical pain will help you not to repeat your behavior. Hurting yourself, making yourself feel pain, is not the answer. Use your words. You came here because you know that this behavior is not the solution. Please try to explain why you feel so guilty. I don't know you and you don't know me. I am someone you can share with and never see. Others on here are also here to give advice and help. What is eating at you so deeply?
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((((((((((molly))))))))))))
Punishing yourself by hurting yourself more isn't the way. I know you know that. Let your punishment (if you feel you have to punish yourself), let it be writing down ways not to do what it is you did again. Write also WHY you did it, what you hoped to accomplish, what you were feeling, what you were thinking. Be very specific, "I don't know" doesn't work. Those are hard things to do, but they are not harmful to you. If one of your 'dolphins' had done what you did, would you punish them in a way that physically or emotionally hurt them? I don't think you would. You deserve the same. Big or little, we all deserve respect--especially from ourselves. Try taking the harder way of punishing yourself, write things down. "The pen is mightier than the sword". ![]() ![]() |
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It's a lot of things I'm ashamed I've allowed myself to be hurt throughout my life I'm ashamed I've let things get so bad I'm ashamed that I don't eat anymore I'm ashamed that today I've taken painkillers, drank alcohol,, been sick because I can't deal with the problems... it's the middle of the afternoon... I didn't want to drink, but it was there and I couldn't stop myself, I poured a glass and now I've drank everything I had... I shouldn't have done!! I'm ashamed of who I am personally... that nobody want's to know me... and why should they? I just... I need some release... i need to let it out...
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Last night I had awful nightmares again and it messed me up and I tried to write and I couldn't and that's another thing... I'm ashamed I didn't go to the school today, I felt too messed up to go... but those kids are important to me, but I let myself wallow instead
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I'm too scared to
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Ashamed you let yourself get hurt. I don't remember you saying to anyone at all--please hurt me, I just want to be hurt so I can feel like crap. Of course you didn't. There are some situations that are out of your control, some that are within your control. I know you want out of your house--you financially are not able to do that. Maybe you could write that down as a goal, a reason to push yourself in therapy, to get better to get a good job to afford to move out. I'm not saying you aren't pushing yourself, I'm saying maybe set that as a goal. Be concerned you don't eat anymore, not ashamed. You currently are unable to see through your pain that people do want to get to know you--you have the people at the place you teach, you have the people in your class, there were people in the table-tennis group...None of them didn't want to know you. It's a good chance, right in the middle of your pain, to remember the ABC in CBT. Let the pain and shame you feel, let it go without hurting the dear person that you are. |
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too scared of talking about it, facing it, admitting it, someone else finding out you talked about it, or what? First try just answering this much. What are you afraid of?-Angie
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![]() deep down I know cuttimng isn't the answer.. i know it isn't I just hrt, I just.. no, I didn't ak to be hurt, I just hate that I'm hurt.. I'm going to write that down... that I want to get away from home, some things I need to do to get to that point and put it on my wall... cutting won't get me there? just dig a deeper hole, but urges are hard to fight, even if your heads in the right place I'm afrad of always hurting, always being alone
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Good plan on writing it down and posting it on the wall! I know the urges are hard to fight, no matter what frame of mind you are in.
I like your rephrasing to you hate having been hurt. That's a lot different from being ashamed. Being ashamed indicates that you had something to do with it. Hating that you've been hurt states you feel a great deal of pain from it--from there you can work towards healing. I believe in you Molly. ![]() ![]() |
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I have to step away from my comouter for about 5 minutes, but I will be right back....Don't go away. I will be here for you! |
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![]() Maybe I'm not to blame for 'all' the hurt... I still feel guilt and partly to blame for the break up of my family though. ![]() ![]()
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That's where have a good counsellor to help you work through those feelings will help a lot. You just keep up the good work, keep on takin' those steps down the path, you'll get there.
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The table tennis club... i went to that because my younger brother wanted to do it, but was scared to go alone.. I wanted to see my 'proper' younger brother again... wanted to see him laugh and enjoy himself, so I went with him.
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We do have a good report but more are always welcome! Please, from my point of view, do not step back. That's what this place is about, getting help and feedback from all angles. You are always welcome to post your advice and views!
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Thanks! I found some very good help and wise words from here some time back, and thought I may be able to be there for someone else. This place is a Godsend for many.
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you'e both right and thank you both for caring
my mother is home from work now and it's a bit chaotic here ![]() thank you both so much ![]()
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I don't wanna do this, I don't wanna do this
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