Can't handle it any more

I can't handle my life any longer. This has been the absolute worst weekend. There isn't enough talk therapy and meds that can erase the guilt ans shame I feel. not to mention the loneliness and isolation. I can't stand it.

For a while this board was a nice refuge for me. But, I am fearful that it is yet another "escape". I am also tired of the lies and the game playing on here.

I loved the advice and chats with many of you. I also loved giving advice, made me feel good that I was giving of myself to others. But, I have laerned that you can't trust people that post on this board. And, I far that I am reaching down into my heart to give to someone that is simply scamming me.

Take care all. I need a break.

{{{{{{{{Vet}}}}}}}} I understand perfectly how you feel about not being able to trust some people. I have trust issues. I have also been taken advantage of... not here, but on other boards.

I've felt upset because some people weren't banned immediately. I'm upset that there are no guidelines for membership... but... we can't avoid these kind of people in the outside world, either. I've come to some peace realizing that. Here, for the most part, people are honest and truthful... so that fact has helped me.

You stand out to me in the fact that you had the courage to tell us that you had withheld some personal information. Not many have that kind of courage. You were strong enough to realize that if you were going to get Real Help, you had to come clean. That's a lot to be proud about!

(I'm going to break my "I feel... I think..." rule here) Take your break, you've earned it. Just use it to work on accepting what you feel guilty about and be good to yourself, ok? You're really not as bad as you think! There's got to be a whole lot of good in you because I agree with you most of the time! Well... except when you're being hard on yourself. You have a good, healthy sense of right and wrong. Don't change that. The world needs more people like us! You are not an enabler and I admire that in you!

Hurry back, ok?



<font color=blue>Don't die with your music still inside you.</font color=blue>

vett, I am so sorry to hear that you are having a bad weekend. I can understand your fear that this is just another escape, but I can't believe it is true, because I sincerely believe that you have received a benefit from the support and advice you've received here.

I also understand all too well that sometimes things here can get to be a little too much...and if you need to take a break, then take some time, and take care of yourself. But please come back when you feel up to it. You will be sorely missed.

*hugs*
mj

Hi dear kind friend,

I know I haven't anwered to your posts and I'm sorry I haven't. It's not that I don't like you, very far from that, but the kind of help you want, I can't give to you. I'm too scare of hurting you. I'm struggling with a relationship myself and I will not be able to give you good advices.

You asked for support here but you also give a lot of support to people in here. You would be miss terribly if you didn't come back. You are open with your feelings, which I admire, but you are also open with your advices. You are a very good listener, and this is really important to be able to help.

In an open forum, my dear kind friend, we also have to be patient and willing to accept that there will be different kind of people coming in. Sometime just people who are looking for fun, I'm not saying this in a mean way, for there is people who are lonely and the computer is all they have, and sometime don't reliased they can hurt people. We can be hurt, I did on another board, and got hurt with this one too. But I had pushed aside, for there is so much kind people here that cares and need help, that I think and feel, that this time might be different. So I'm trying to trust. I hope you can take another chance and try to trust another time too.

Take good care and know I care very much about you.

Love and many hugs dear kind friend
forgoten

Vett, I am sorry you have had such a bad weekend, and that you feel the need to take a break from here. I am also tired of the lies and mind games on here, but I have come to accept that the "perfect" family or community is an impossible dream and there will never be a place which has a totally healthy environment. All we can strive for is to make our lives and those we are involved with as healthy and happy as we can ... and try to be there for people who are struggling. I feel as if this is turning into a lecture, which is not my style at all, and which I know you don't need.

I will definitely miss you here, I find your posts informative and insightful, and I have loved our chats. I think this board has been more than an escape ... but I respect your feelings. I hope you decide to return before too long.

Take care,
Fuzzy

oh sweetie! I hate that you feel that way. I know that sometimes people are horrible, but most of the time they're not and you have to hold on to that. I know that you are a strong, sensitive and funny guy and i laughed so much during our chat! You sound a bit stressed in this post and i hope that you feel better soon. Anything I can do to help, let me know.
You don't deserve to feel this way. Remember - any support you need, let me know.

Mildred
ps ok, if it makes you feel better, you can use KW!

Aawgh, ((((((((Vett)))))))) = I'm sorry that you are feeling so low. [sad] Try to remember, though, that your kindness and generosity of spirit shown to others is never wasted, no matter how they receive it, or what their 'deal' ends up being. It's still the same gift of value emminating from you.

I, too, understand needing to take a break, but I am with everyone else in really hoping that you won't be gone long, because we will really miss you here!!

With affection and respect, Jill

<font color=blue>HI FROM PEANUT</font color=blue>

Hi Vett. I can certainly understand needing to take a break from a forum. I have done it... even done it here. I hope you will come back refreshed and stronger after your break. Games and conflict are very disturbing. Hopefully you will find a way to navigate around them and still be able to enjoy support online. *hugs* we'll miss your voice here. Maybe only a short break???

{{{{{{{{{{vett}}}}}}}}}}}

I understand completely and it is ok to want and need to take a break. The only advice I am going to give (as you are receiving some wonderful advice from everyone here) is to keep being who you are. I am so impressed with your thoughtfulness, kindness and wisdom being offered to everyone here. Even though there are a few bad apples in every bunch....there are still so many that are loving you for who you are.

Please don't stay away too long ok? We need you here too.


Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown

I can relate to needed a break now and then.
I know it's tough when some people take advantage of the kindness of the good people here and it's hard to tell if they have bad intentions or not.
Try not to let it get to you. It's not worth your time or energy. Pass the posts on by and focus on what you need and the ones you care about.
There are so many genuinely good people here that really do care that I think it's worth putting up with an idiot or two.
Take care and we'll see you again soon.
Heidu

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin

You know what is the most frustrating thind for me? Its that you all have commented on my good qualities... giving of myself, good listener, kindness, sense of humor... whatever they may be. My frustration is that I know I have all those good qualities, but what good are they? One mistake and all my good qualities are erased.

I know you all are probably sick of hearing this but I am in so much pain...missing my ex girl friend. I know that I am the good person inside.

Today is her birthday and I am NOT having a good day. Woke up tearful and am fighting back the tears as I type this as I can't be with her. I wish I could turn back the ahnds of time but I can't. I just want to wake up one day and have this be all a bad dream. Because waking up like this everyday is not worth it.

I'm not too good with relationship stuff.
I can give good hugs though.
(((((((((((((ltlredvett)))))))))))))))

Vett,, I am so sorry you feel this way.
Please do not leave us, you inspire some of us, "me" to be a better person. and I am not scamming you atall.
I love to see a response from you, for it makes me think hey we all need help once and awhile, and you are such a sweet caring person, I would hate to se you go [fronw] or leave for the "game playing" that is going on on the fourms

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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I can fully understand the pain that you are in missing your ex girlfreind.

I borke up with someone I cared a great deal about ,and lost a second best friend that I had, because i could no longer turst them or myslef.. I loved them both deeply, and had to make my choice to walk away from them for good..
Which to this day still hurts everytime her or his name is mentiond to me from others.

I can understand the thought it was all you.. BUT no sweetie it takes two to tango, as the phrase goes.
It takes two to make the realtionship to work, it taks a great deal of commucication and if you do not have that, then you have nothing to build on, nor will it last very long..

My mom gave me some great adivce once.. and I still use it today..
Never go to bed mad at each other always stay up and talk it over till it is resovled"

To this day, it has saved me many heartaches in my life..

Understand we care about you, and do understand if you need to take a break, but keep in mind, that not all of us, want you to go

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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Vett, unfortunately there are scammers on every forum on the internet at some time IMO ... I hate it too They do make a mockery of good peoples' caring ... but it doesn't always have to destroy everything, unless the scammers are in a position of "power" on the forum, which is not the case here.

I'm sorry you are in so much pain

I hope that eventually you will feel that your mistake doesn't erase all your good qualities. **Hugs**