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Crummy session! I feel totally awful. Sitting in my car crying! She said she never implied I'm bisexual. End of that discussion.
I told her how hard 2 weeks is and she suggested journaling after the session and only emailing her after 1 week. She wants me to stay connected internally so would rather I don't email at all. She asked if I had anything of hers and I reminded her of the heart stone she gave me once, and a recording of a visualization. I also said I read over old emails when she used to answer me. I told her I miss being able to tell her the things I'm doing during the week so she asked if I had someone who wants to hear. I said I don't. I asked about her emailing me hi or a short phone call but she doesn't want to do that. I forgot about holding her hand so we only had 5 minutes left and she told me we had to stop on time because the next person was on a tight schedule. I said I had the urge to google her and go on FB and she said there's nothing new there. I said I wanted to know something new about her and all she came up with was that she got a new laptop which was right there. I tried to talk about sex so she said why don't I let it go since I don't like it and my H isn't interested. She was tired today and yawned a few times. I feel totally disconnected to her and I don't want to leave the parking lot. What can I do? I understand needing to internalize her and not need her so I can quit therapy but it hurts so much. She's the one I want to turn to but she doesn't want me to. Maybe I just need to quit now. Please can I have hugs and support but please don't criticize my T. |
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Bad sessions suck, Rainbow. Right there with you today. I spent at least five minutes crying in the bathroom after mine. Hugs.
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I'm so very sorry that you are hurting Rainbow. I feel for you and hope that you can indeed find ways to internalize what she has taught you and feel her presence when she is not around. I like that you have your heart stone and recordings. Sometimes, okay all the time, my littlest "part" of me sits under T's desk so at least I know that she is safe.
I wish you only some peace and the confidence you need to go forward. I'm glad that your T cares so much about you... Gentle hugs, Wysteria
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(((((((( rainbow8 ))))))))
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Hi Rainbow. I'm so sorry you had an upsetting session. It is so difficult to leave when they go like that - when all you want to do is feel validated and 'held'. I am sending you hugs and strength to get through to the next session which I am sure will be more positive and hopefully healing. Keep with it Rainbow, you are doing so well. I know exactly how you feel.
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I don't think there's a reason to criticize your T. She really wants what is best for you, and that is difficult for you.
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I'm really sorry that you had so bad session...
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When I have a worse than usual appointment, I usually cancel more until I sort it out for myself.
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Hugs, Rainbow!!! I hate those off-kilter sessions!!! It must be hard esp. since it is once every two weeks.
Is your T against notes in the mail too? Maybe you could mail a snail mail note with your thoughts to talk about next session. ? I know how awful that disconnect can feel. Lots of hugs here. Keep talking here if you need support. |
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I feel the same with my my new "therapist" and I have a feeling that my session next weel will be my last session with her.
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Bad sessions do suck. I had one last week. The weird thing is T and I talked about it today and I learned about it it through his perspective (and he mine) and it was very enlightening. So maybe something good can come of it?
Quite a ***** to have to WAIT until that next session though. So sorry. I really struggled when I went every 2 weeks. It was miserable for me. |
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So sorry to hear your session sucked rainbow. Been there. Got the T-shirt. I know how hard it is to internalize the caring. Sometimes I don't think mine cares much either but other times I think she does. I sent her a message on my chart telling her that I didn't feel like she cared about me and she got offended and I got the lecture about boundaries and all that.
I have been seeing my T almost 6 years and will be eventually winding down and dreading it. I am not where I want to be in life. I know the feeling of thinking your T wants to be free of you. Right now I see her every week because I recently lost my mom. She always tells me therapy isn't supposed to last forever which I already know. Sometimes it feels like she is the only person I can talk to about anything. So I emphasize with you and hope your next session goes better. ![]() |
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Rain ... it seems like the two of you continue to have different goals for your therapy
In reading it seems more like you want your T to be someone to be there for you, who will give you regular comforting contact ... someone to share your life with as far as being able to tell them what is happening for you; to talk to them about different things; and have your T provide an ongoing positive and supportive environment for you No matter how much you internalise her ... I don't see how it would really meet the need it seems you have ... which is also a perfectly valid need ![]() Sorry this was such a bad session ![]() |
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Thanks, everyone, for all of the hugs!!!!
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It happens, and it sucks when it does. Sorry you're hurting.
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I dont understand what you want. Like tigergirl said, what is your goal now for therapy? But back to what you want. Is there an obstacle to getting what you want? If you want someone to listen to you, if that is a friend, usually you have to listen back, but with a friend you have things in common, things you find appealing about the person, so you enjoy yourself talking or listening.
It sounds like you do a lot of things, but the real enjoyment comes in talking about these activities to your t? Maybe that is a clue. Like you could/should be a movie critic. Just thinking out loud here. |
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At least I didn't email T tonight but I didn't journal yet. I'm exhausted and going to bed. Maybe I'll wake up and it will be Tuesday again like the movie, Groundhog Day. I could do over my session and have a better outcome.
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There is a hole in our hearts that we need our Ts to fill. I finally realized that I just have to learn to live with the hole. Waiting for my T to fill it intensified the yearning and anguish.
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There's something very deeply satisfying about having a partner or very close, deep female relationships like that which can be replicated in therapy, but only an hour at a time, occasionally. It's like prostitution in one sense, emotional prostitution, that surrogacy. I don't mean that in an offensive way or as a slur. I think escorts do respectable work and important, but that they act as more of a bridge, if anything, a temporary substitute, not a partner. |
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