Couch 79: Spend some time on Couch 79 (snap, snap)

"It is very painful for me to have to say 'how-de-do, little girls, how-de-do' to young persons. I am not in the habit of saying 'how-de-do, little girls, how-de-do' to anybody under the rank of Stockbroker."

neutrino, that brings back echos of my time in a student residence. Can you get something to eat while you are out running errands?

I went to a party last night. It was horrible. I felt so out of place, alone and different. My H stormed out and accused me of ignoring him. I was left in a rural place with no transport. It was horrible. Guess who I text! Why I don't know. I wasn't asking for a lift or anything - I just wanted a connection,to reach out. Was it wrong to text T? I had a reply this morning. "See you next week' unbelievable. It's as if nothing happened. Maybe she thinks I made it all up? I wasn't asking for anything. Just told her I was struggling and the night had been a disaster.

I am so hurt. I just can't see the point of continuing with her. I am a nuisance, a pain, a waste of her time. She doesn't want me outside of the T hour.

I want to curl up and sleep and never wake up.

Aaa, I'm sorry you feel so lonely and abandoned by your T. Fwiw, my T replies in the same way. Mast: "I feel completely wretched and lonely and am not sure how to carry on." T: "See you on Tuesday." (To be honest he has replied with more empathy and compassion a couple of times, but on the other hand he usually doesn't respond at all.)
Maybe try to see it as a message conveying some kind of hope and consistency? You were struggling last night, but you will have a chance to be heard and understood when you see your T again?

Perhaps but I think people don't even understand the whole introvert thing. At least not if they're super extroverted, which a lot of people in my corridor/dorm seem to be. But yeah, perhaps I should tell them that I'm introverted or something next time. I just don't know how. They might not think that's a legitimate reason for getting out of a party.

Yeah, I just got home and I bought a chicken salad in the city centre, which I'm going to eat now. So low on energy at the moment.

(((Neutrino))) I am extremely introverted, and in my experience most people don't get it. I don't think you should ever have to explain who you are to others to make THEM more comfortable, either. Forget that. I refuse to make excuses for myself, and you shouldn't have to, either. Just keep doing what you need to do to take care of yourself.

Hi everyone! I stupidly went to bed 4am and woke up at 7! Got to try to go back to sleep.
I don't like parties either. Would rather be wi a few people at a time. It's okay to be like that.

Alone: how did you get home? I think your t is being consistent in not offering help or compassion when you email. Have you asked her why she does that and what can you do k
instead of relying on her? That would be a productive discussion, in my opinion. Another T may of may not respond differently. I'm sorry you feel so bad.

Granite... You needed to communicate with yourT and this was your only option at 3 in the morning.... I hope writing the email helped a little and you got some sleep last night..

Granite, my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope your T will actually read the email since this is kind of a unique circumstances.

Healed, I'm right there with you in reference to sometimes not believing things. The longer it goes on, and the more inconsistent a story is, and the more a person seems to enjoy drama for the sake of drama, or attention just for the sake of getting attention, the less tolerance I have for it. Also, the forum atmosphere and/or "politics" or whatever you want to call it, is very interesting but also very upsetting to me. So, I am trying to stay out of everything except those threads where I feel comfortable just saying something like, 'Oh, I understand that feeling.' Even if I feel I have something super helpful to say, or resources to offer, I am trying to just sit on my fingers and type nothing.

On a happy note, I have six kittens in my house right now. Four are about 5 1/2 weeks, and two are almost five months. I bought them a bag of toys at the store, and five of them are now happily playing with the bag the toys came in.

Is the sixth one passed out?

The sixth one is a bit more dignified. She is watching imperiously from atop the cat tree. She is the Stopdog of the kittens.

That would be an awesome name for a cat.

MKAC- I think as a general rule PC wants us to be encouraging, supportive, and nice.. And that is why, I don't say a lot outside of this thread. I think some people need tough love, harsh words, or general bs called on them. However, I guess that is frowned upon.. So, I reply when I can be encouraging. The thing that bothers me is when I see something and I almost certain the person is making stuff up.. But, they have our genuinely caring members worried about them..that bothers me a lot.

Hi Murray! Hope things are going well for you!

Hi Ready! Its so funny that you said "Hi" just now. I was actually thinking of posting today for the first time in ages...serendipity.

Things have been kind of rough for me lately but I think they are getting better. Thanks.

I hope things are ok with you too.

Murray post away....give us an update if you want to share.

I'm okay... I just spent the weekend alone.... It can be a little triggering of my PTSD but I survived.

Oh I'm sorry to hear that being alone triggered your PTSD.

Between serious health issues in my family, new CSA memories, ex-in-laws harassing me again(to the point that I had to get a lawyer again), and upcoming surgery...I've been sort of a mess lately. My poor T...

hello . didn't get much sleep last night at all my head was obsessing a lot out of control and I did stuff im not so proud of .im sorry . but the sun is out and I am going to get some pool time today and maybe get a nap out in the sun away from the mother. shutting down my computer so she can not snoop as I caught her the last time I went to the pool

I cant believe you found a song that proclaims love of legal procedure!!!

So, drunk posting, or faux drunk posting...that's a thing on PC? I'm not an addict, recovering or otherwise, but I've had my fill of them in real life. I would think that might be triggering for some to come across.

Murray it sounds like a very stressful time in your life. I'm glad you have your T. I'm glad you do not tolerate your Ex ILs harassment. It is just ridiculous. Im sorry to hear you need to have surgery...that alone is stressful. Sending lots of

Yeah, some of us have had parents who were alcoholics and/or addicts and manipulated us by suicide threats and/or "accidental" overdoses or problems resulting from mixing of alcohol and drugs. However, pointing out to people problems with that kind of behavior isn't okay on the forum. Also, trying to help by pointing out other options or pointing out resources to use to actually change bad circumstances is not okay, even when done strictly in the way of saying that things do not have to continue as they are if you don't want them to, and here are some options. Just FYI, Lickety. Lessons learned the hard way.

I think it is often safer than doing other things a poster could do when drunk, so I think the op should have at it without me actually feeling the need to engage with the poster. I have no urge to rescue anyone, but it does not bother me if someone chooses to post here rather than screw up their real life. I understand the usefulness of a drunken poster using pc to get stuff out rather than doing it in their real life. I do not understand those responding posters who continue to engage with such behavior or in attempts to rescue or reason with an op in such circumstances.
I personally tend to err on assuming it is useful for the op to post whether one believes the OP is actually or is faking being drunk.
Perhaps the powers that be could come up with a drunk trigger warning to put on such threads.

Got it. Thanks, MKAC.

I liked the musical. But I don't think the song is about a love of legal procedure.