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Old Jan 02, 2016, 11:13 PM
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I totally have as many boundaries with my students as therapists do with clients. Possibly more. I freely admit they're mostly there for me and my sanity, though it's barf-tastic how many colleagues of mine pretend they're there for the student: "It will enable you to learn best if you call me Professor Jones while I call you by your first name."

Perhaps we're defining boundaries differently, but I don't think therapists are unusual in the number of boundaries they set. Prison guards. Parole officers. Doctors. All of these professions set what I would call boundaries.

I do wish therapists would quit the malarkey about in whose interest the boundaries are, though.
Every relationship has boundaries. I don't think most other professions make as big a deal of it though as therapy does. As in, my doctor does not tell me about his boundaries when I first go to see him about a boil on my toe. I know not to call my thesis advisor on a Saturday night because it's inappropriate and she would probably give me ***** for being inconsiderate, but wouldn't start any weird "boundary" talk.

I think a lot about my relationship with my pastor who has known me long and has daughters my age. We meet up a lot and it's kind of like counselling but there's no weird artificial boundary talk either. I wouldn't call her repeatedly because it's rude and inappropriate but she doesn't feel the need to tell me that, although I'm sure she would if the need arose. I don't want to cross any limits of what would make her uncomfortable because I care about her and I respect her and I don't want to make her uncomfortable. But I do rely on her and maybe even depend on her (in a healthy way) to be there to care and listen, but the boundaries are just kind of inherent in the relationship. We have a close, caring relationship and I do look up to her a lot, but I know she's my minister and not my best friend. We don't talk about them, they just exist.

I think the focus on boundaries in therapy does come from the assumption that a lot of people in therapy have issues with overstepping or with knowing what kind of behaviour is okay. And like SM said, it can be a bit infantilizing because ithe focus on boundaries does imply an assumption that the client has trouble understanding what is appropriate. It becomes a big formal issue in therapy that it just doesn't in other professional relationships where, yes there are natural inherent boundaries, but they are not discussed or made into a huge issue.
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Old Jan 02, 2016, 11:21 PM
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I would be uncomfortable with a therapist who explicitly referred to boundaries. My therapist and I don't have explicit discussions about boundaries. He seems relatively loose with them, and neither one of us really seem to do anything that would bring us near any boundaries and prompt a discussion about them. Allowing for phone calls is part of how he works, and he has a really good system for coaching if the need arises between sessions. I feel like he's really confident about how he handles these things and he is so clear about how they work that boundary issues just don't come up.

Sometimes it sounds to me that therapists seem to talk about boundaries when they don't seem very secure or confident in themselves, like they need to assert something to counteract something that is showing up for them. But I don't have any personal experience with this so it could be that I am misunderstanding other people's experiences...
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Old Jan 02, 2016, 11:48 PM
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A few years later and I still don't trust therapists to keep safe boundaries for me so I instil them for the both of us by not contacting t outside of sessions and by not getting too close incase I have to rely on them. I know this is not entirely healthy either but I can't trust a t to be there anymore. I have seen do many ts with boundaries looser than their knickers and it frustrates me that they then deny any wrong doing.

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Old Jan 02, 2016, 11:58 PM
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How do you feel about boundaries? Have they ever severely damaged you?

I respect those Ts who may tailor boundaries for a specific client, but I really think they need to be careful in that....and try to remain consistent with said client. Oh...there was one post on here (I think I tried to get it pinned) that was such a good post on boundaries.... by someone who's not active on here anymore. I'll try to find it, and post the thread.
Boundaries have significantly impacted my therapy life. I was very close to one of my therapists. What I loved about our work was how out-of-the-box she seemed. She wasn't at all what I had pictured when I imagined a therapist. She was fun - we laughed, we would bring treats to session to share, she would sometimes come with me to help me do some exposures (for OCD treatment), she was very relaxed with schedules, she texted, etc. Nothing we did was unethical and everything was mutually agreed upon.

Two years after I met her, my OCD got so bad that I went to a residential treatment program. I went in so naive. When I got there, and was sharing my past treatment history, what I described about my therapeutic relationship raised a lot of red flags with the residential program staff. I was told by them that I would never see that therapist again and our relationship was terminated against my will (I was a minor at the time). I had no idea that what I had perceived as a positive relationship would be taken so strongly.

My experience at the residential treatment program was severely negative from that point forward. It wasn't really explained to me why the relationship was so 'inappropriate'. It wasn't until I was discharged that I really began to understand that different therapists have different opinions on what boundaries are firm and what lines you do not cross with a client. It wasn't until then that I could begin to see how some other professionals might raise their eyebrows at my relationship with my former t. The next eight months after I was discharged were the hardest of my life. I was discharged to a complete stranger therapist and I was angry, hurt, confused, and really sad. I fought for eight months to go back to that first therapist and finish what we had started together. I eventually did but there was so much that happened in between. I learned a lot about boundaries through it all.

I do understand the importance of them but I think that unless there is something illegal or outright abusive or aggressive going on in the therapeutic relationship, therapists should focus solely on enforcing his or her own boundaries and not judging the boundaries of others in the profession. Because boundaries are very grey it seems and tampering with someone else's way of doing things can be more detrimental to the patient than not.
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Old Jan 02, 2016, 11:58 PM
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Here is the post I was talking about. Have not seen the poster in quite some time...

http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...oundaries.html
This is the post that first brought me here through a Google search when I was trying to make sense of the pain I was feeling
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Old Jan 03, 2016, 02:00 AM
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Being a trainee therapist I am still learning about boundaries. It is a cloudy grey area.
I have found that by being open and honest with clients about my availability and limitations that this has worked well for both me and clients.
I have said that if they were in a crisis I can take calls over Christmas and I can take texts. I also said that I can't guarantee a response straight away but I will respond as soon as I possibly can!
I had one emergency call. I find that by explaing how available I am in our first sessions without using the term boundary helps.
I also Know from my own personal therapy experience that when a doesn't share their availability or much about themselves I become curious and that I want to test their boundaries not intentionally but it's unconsciously, it's a test for the good mother, will they be there when I need them and most of the time they fail and I am left feeling like nobody will be there.

I agree that boundaries are protection for client and therapist safety. They are 100% the therapists responsibility especially around sexuality and not allowing any sort of sexual relationship to develop. I am always weary of this and what signals I am sending to clients. I have learned that becAuse of therapies intimate setting it is easy for clients to get confused about their feelings and what is happening and I believe that this is where the harm is done.
Instead of being open and honest with clients ts take on a role of being holier than thou and infantizing clients. They not respond to erotic transference appropriately and further shame the client and this damages the relationship and the clients already wounded psyche even further. There is so many possibilities for damage in therapy but I do believe that when a therapist is honest with client and themselves about their limitations that anything can be worked through.

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Old Jan 03, 2016, 02:52 AM
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How would you suggest (anyone) Ts handle discussion of boundaries? Is that something that should be talked about in the "getting to know you" stage, or wait until the T gets a handle on who the client is, or just as boundary crossings pop up? Because of being on PC, I knew to ask my T about boundaries pretty early on. I knew hugs were ok, because she'd been giving them. I knew contact outside of session was ok, because she'd been allowing it, both ways. When I specifically asked about boundaries, she said the only one that comes to the top of her head is no gifts. But I only ever brought that up that one time.... and eventually, after working with her for almost a year, boundaries came out of everywhere.

All I ever wanted was consistency in therapy, because everything else is no inconsistent. I wanted to feel safe and know I could count on her to be as I knew her to be. Is that wrong? Well, during a month of many cancelations on her part, I was having a hard time. There was one day in particular, I really NEEDED my session, and I knew it ahead of time. It was my mom's birthday, and I was so glad to see I would have therapy on that day. It was one of the days she canceled. I was devastated.... (over half my sessions were canceled and/or rescheduled this particular month). I did briefly talk about how the absences were affecting me, although I felt selfish in bringing it up. She said that life is not predictable, it can be very inconsistent, and she basically said this is helpful for me to get used to it in the "real world." I wish I could remember exactly how she said, but that's the jist of it. That really bothered me. Other people talk about how therapy should be consistent. That it's helpful for the healing process. So, was my T wrong? Was I wrong to ask for consistency in therapy? I really was being horribly selfish in being affected by so many cancelations.... and I was later told by her that the times she didn't cancel, she canceled everyone BUT me, because she felt I needed my sessions. That made me feel pathetic.
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Old Jan 03, 2016, 05:48 AM
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My boundaries in T have been negotiated as we go. There were some clearly set out in our initial session - eg around confidentiality, cancelling sessions etc but things like between session contact we've figured out as we go. My T and I seem to read each other really well and I know, for example, that she can't be there for me 24/7 or immediately when I'm in crisis. She knows that if I'm contacting her between sessions it's because I'm struggling and need some kind of response and we both know that therapy happens in session - so no long email or text conversations about my "stuff".

In terms of touch, my T has been explicit about why she doesn't touch or hug me if I'm upset and she did it in a non shaming, gentle, almost in passing way. In fact she hugged me for the first time before a recent break, we'd had a hard session and it felt right and appropriate, without me thinking that's how we'll end sessions from here on in. And if I wanted to explicitly talk about it, I know that would be fine too.

I don't think any of what you wanted in therapy was wrong mussinglizzy, your T has managed the boundaries of the relationship poorly, probably with good intention but poorly nonetheless.
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Old Jan 03, 2016, 07:37 AM
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How would you suggest (anyone) Ts handle discussion of boundaries? Is that something that should be talked about in the "getting to know you" stage, or wait until the T gets a handle on who the client is, or just as boundary crossings pop up? Because of being on PC, I knew to ask my T about boundaries pretty early on. I knew hugs were ok, because she'd been giving them. I knew contact outside of session was ok, because she'd been allowing it, both ways. When I specifically asked about boundaries, she said the only one that comes to the top of her head is no gifts. But I only ever brought that up that one time.... and eventually, after working with her for almost a year, boundaries came out of everywhere.


All I ever wanted was consistency in therapy, because everything else is no inconsistent. I wanted to feel safe and know I could count on her to be as I knew her to be. Is that wrong? Well, during a month of many cancelations on her part, I was having a hard time. There was one day in particular, I really NEEDED my session, and I knew it ahead of time. It was my mom's birthday, and I was so glad to see I would have therapy on that day. It was one of the days she canceled. I was devastated.... (over half my sessions were canceled and/or rescheduled this particular month). I did briefly talk about how the absences were affecting me, although I felt selfish in bringing it up. She said that life is not predictable, it can be very inconsistent, and she basically said this is helpful for me to get used to it in the "real world." I wish I could remember exactly how she said, but that's the jist of it. That really bothered me. Other people talk about how therapy should be consistent. That it's helpful for the healing process. So, was my T wrong? Was I wrong to ask for consistency in therapy? I really was being horribly selfish in being affected by so many cancelations.... and I was later told by her that the times she didn't cancel, she canceled everyone BUT me, because she felt I needed my sessions. That made me feel pathetic.

No you were not wrong to ask for consistency at all, as a consumer it's your right to have consistency. I think therapists take advantage of people's wounds and attachment wounds. Who would continue going to a doctor or dentist if they kept cancelling your appointments knowing you are in deep pain. I feel it's almost unethical!

See, the way I look at it is people who have been badly treated and hurt will continue to accept crumbs instead of looking for the bread, it's the way we are programmed. I think you were tested very badly mussinglizzy. I am sorry about that and the way your therapist responded. It was inadequate. I can really see how you felt shamed by it. Have you had a chance to discuss this with her?

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Old Jan 03, 2016, 08:10 AM
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Every relationship has boundaries. I don't think most other professions make as big a deal of it though as therapy does. As in, my doctor does not tell me about his boundaries when I first go to see him about a boil on my toe. I know not to call my thesis advisor on a Saturday night because it's inappropriate and she would probably give me ***** for being inconsiderate, but wouldn't start any weird "boundary" talk.

I think a lot about my relationship with my pastor who has known me long and has daughters my age. We meet up a lot and it's kind of like counselling but there's no weird artificial boundary talk either. I wouldn't call her repeatedly because it's rude and inappropriate but she doesn't feel the need to tell me that, although I'm sure she would if the need arose. I don't want to cross any limits of what would make her uncomfortable because I care about her and I respect her and I don't want to make her uncomfortable. But I do rely on her and maybe even depend on her (in a healthy way) to be there to care and listen, but the boundaries are just kind of inherent in the relationship. We have a close, caring relationship and I do look up to her a lot, but I know she's my minister and not my best friend. We don't talk about them, they just exist.

I think the focus on boundaries in therapy does come from the assumption that a lot of people in therapy have issues with overstepping or with knowing what kind of behaviour is okay. And like SM said, it can be a bit infantilizing because ithe focus on boundaries does imply an assumption that the client has trouble understanding what is appropriate. It becomes a big formal issue in therapy that it just doesn't in other professional relationships where, yes there are natural inherent boundaries, but they are not discussed or made into a huge issue.
So if therapists - or at least some therapists, plus the professional literature - didn't talk about boundaries so much, they wouldn't be such a big deal?

I wonder if all the talk about boundaries by the profession does more harm than good. As in, clients worry more about putting a foot wrong?

I had actually not heard of therapeutic boundaries until coming to PC. Neither of mine has ever used the word in relation to themselves, though they both had rules about stuff like fees and in the case of No. 1, outside contact, laid out in their contracts.

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I think that inevitably during the course of the therapeutic relationship there are going to be some conversations about boundaries. My first one was close to a year in.. When t gave me his cell phone number and made sure to understand when I should the number. Maybe for another T it is within the first couple of appointments.. To make sure everybody is clear. To talk about them over and over would indicate an issues on the T's or client's part.
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I don't remember ever having a conversation about boundaries with any of my therapists, and it has never come up with them. I knew what their boundaries were fairly easily, not that they ever enumerated them particularly. Not sure how I knew when I think about it. I guess I can just describe them as people with healthy personal and professional boundaries that were easy to read, and apparently they could read my boundaries pretty easily also? Not sure, but boundaries have been a non-issue.

It did come up once with my pdoc, not so much in relation to me. It was the last time I was in the hospital, and he was telling me to please call him anytime I felt I needed his help. I told him I would if I could get past the gatekeepers on his answering service (they always ask if it is an emergency and sometimes it didn't really seem like it was.) His response was that I should just tell them it IS an emergency, that I had never called him at any point where it was a situation that he wouldn't have considered an emergency. He explained the answering service was doing its job because there are patients who seriously abuse phone calls, calling for things like med refills in the middle of the night, etc., but I had never abused the system and he felt confident that I never would.

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Old Jan 03, 2016, 09:33 AM
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The only time is has come up for me is in terms of a therapist reassuring me they have them so they won't intrude upon me and that they will stay back. The first one I see has said she has "excellent boundaries" in response to my questioning her about not intruding upon me, but I also know she invited another client over to her house to watch a sporting event and that she sought that client out by going to their house one time after the client's suicide threat to check up on her. So excellent may be a bit of an overstatement from that one.
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The only time is has come up for me is in terms of a therapist reassuring me they have them so they won't intrude upon me and that they will stay back. The first one I see has said she has "excellent boundaries", but I also know she invited another client over to her house to watch a sporting event and that she sought that client out by going to their house one time after the client's suicide threat to check up on her. So excellent may be a bit of an overstatement from that one.

Yes, my experience has been very much like lolagrace's - we just don't get hung up on them, and they aren't big issues. I do suspect the therapists who tend to talk about them a lot may sometimes be doing so because they have struggled with them in the past. It would make me a bit suspicious.
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My T has never talked about boundaries. I've brought up mine once or twice but for the most part there's really no discussion. I didn't even really think about boundaries until I read some posts on PC. That being said I haven't had any issues. My T's behavior is consistent.
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Still thinking about how I knew my therapist's boundaries when we never really had that talk.

1. He doesn't play free and loose with emails and texting. In fact, until a serious family emergency came up where he wanted me to directly call him, I never had a direct phone number for him. Always went through his front office or an answering service. I could always contact him by phone that way and he always got back to me that day, but he didn't give easy access to email or texting which seems to be an area where people end up having boundary problems with their therapists. Perhaps too many therapists haven't thought the technology aspect through well enough and then end up changing their boundaries mid-stream when they realize they were too loose with their accessibility?

2. He never made promises of always being there, never leaving, etc. He's pretty realistic that way. His priority in his life has always very clearly been his family (which I highly respect) and that in itself is a boundary that I intuitively understand. It seems that oftentimes boundary issues that get mentioned here result when clients have been promised to be the therapist's priority, to always be available, etc. It isn't a realistic promise, and while perhaps well-intentioned, it often leads to confusion and feelings of abandonment when therapists have to backtrack and say they didn't really mean what they said they meant.

Those are the two things that come to mind. He didn't have to have that boundary talk because these were just his standard way of practicing that clearly indicated his boundaries without there having to be a big to-do about it.
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The second one charges for contact outside of appointment times after the first 15 or twenty minutes - it is in her initial blurb and I don't remember the exact amount because I never thought I would ever spend more than a minute or two on the phone with her and if I did, I would simply get a bill - no big deal. I think charging for the contact makes sense and is how I run my business (when I remember to write the time down). I think it makes things clearer for all parties to charge in 10ths of an hour.
Both of the ones I see use their cell phones for personal and work.
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I think the very fact that so much emphasis is put on boundaries in therapy is both a) indicative of how infantalizing it can be (with the therapist putting in firm rules and explaining them much like you would to a small child) and b) strong evidence for how much power they have.

There's no other relationship where you'd tolerate someone having this many 'boundaries'. In fact, if anyone acted like a therapist did, you'd probably recommend they get therapy! Therapists actually act like prize weirdos most of the time.

I think boundaries are mostly there to keep the therapist sane and separate from clients, and have very little to do with the client's well-being. I think some therapists frame the boundaries as if they're for the client, but I think that a disingenuous lie. For example, the reason why your therapist won't answer ten emails a day isn't because it's bad for you. (It might actually be really therapeutic and useful for you.)It's because they don't have time to do that and trying to would drive them insane. If they were up front about that as a logistical reason for not replying, that would be fine. But framing it as being a 'boundary' there for the 'client' is just nonsense.
I will say my T has never used the word "boundary" with me. When I was going through a rough time, she said to please call or e-mail her if I was having trouble during the week. I was the one who kept bringing up that I felt bad about e-mailing or calling so much (when i was feeling bad, emailing 1-2/week), and it took a couple of months of her reassuring me it was ok.

But, she did say that as long as I knew that if it was really serious, that I knew I could call our local mental health crisis line that is open 24/7 or go to the ER. She said that even if I e-mailed every day, it wouldn't mean I was a "bad" client, it meant that I needed more care than she could give. She said that her job is to be a T, but she isn't a T 24 hours a day. So if I e-mail or call, she may be in sessions all day, or with her family and couldn't get back to me right away. I totally understand that.

So in a way she was telling me her boundaries, but only because I was so concerned about intruding upon her life. She was very realistic about it, but said it in a non-shaming way.

Of course it is different than any other relationship, how could it not be? Where else do you sit with someone's undivided attention week after week, and it solely be about you? Even with the best of friends, of course they also will bring up themselves in the conversations too, that is natural. My T does tell me stories about her life that relate to what I am talking about, but it is still in support of whatever I am saying.

But, I think that this whole boundary thing doesn't have to be a huge deal and seem weird and mysterious. My T is very transparent and seemingly genuine. Just yesterday I left after waiting for 25 minutes (which i've never done), and I was pissed! I could hear her laughing in the room with the client, and it put me over the edge.

She called me when I was walking home and apologized profusely, saying that she mis-read the clock when she looked up at it, and thought she was only a half-hour in instead of an hour and a half. I still think that's a little crazy to lose track of time like that, but she does get very involved when you are in session with her.

Anyway, she apologized, but I was pretty short with her on the phone. I was still mad. She sent me an e-mail after, saying she felt bad, and that in the future she'll set a timer for her sessions. To me, she made a big mistake, but she owned up to it and told me how she'd fix it in the future--much like if you ****ed up with a friend. You'd apologize and figure out a way so it didn't happen again.

Anyway, that was a bit off track.
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I do believe therapists do put these things in place to protect themselves - but the added bonus is it keeps therapists so they stay away from me -so it works out.
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But, I think that this whole boundary thing doesn't have to be a huge deal and seem weird and mysterious. My T is very transparent and seemingly genuine. Just yesterday I left after waiting for 25 minutes (which i've never done), and I was pissed! I could hear her laughing in the room with the client, and it put me over the edge.

She called me when I was walking home and apologized profusely, saying that she mis-read the clock when she looked up at it, and thought she was only a half-hour in instead of an hour and a half. I still think that's a little crazy to lose track of time like that, but she does get very involved when you are in session with her.

Anyway, she apologized, but I was pretty short with her on the phone. I was still mad. She sent me an e-mail after, saying she felt bad, and that in the future she'll set a timer for her sessions. To me, she made a big mistake, but she owned up to it and told me how she'd fix it in the future--much like if you ****ed up with a friend. You'd apologize and figure out a way so it didn't happen again.

Anyway, that was a bit off track.
Wow....that would be SO hard...I'm sorry you had to deal with that. That's just heartbreaking....
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But, I think that this whole boundary thing doesn't have to be a huge deal and seem weird and mysterious. My T is very transparent and seemingly genuine. Just yesterday I left after waiting for 25 minutes (which i've never done), and I was pissed! I could hear her laughing in the room with the client, and it put me over the edge.

She called me when I was walking home and apologized profusely, saying that she mis-read the clock when she looked up at it, and thought she was only a half-hour in instead of an hour and a half. I still think that's a little crazy to lose track of time like that, but she does get very involved when you are in session with her.

Anyway, she apologized, but I was pretty short with her on the phone. I was still mad. She sent me an e-mail after, saying she felt bad, and that in the future she'll set a timer for her sessions. To me, she made a big mistake, but she owned up to it and told me how she'd fix it in the future--much like if you ****ed up with a friend. You'd apologize and figure out a way so it didn't happen again.

Anyway, that was a bit off track.
I think one can both have an apology and still be mad. The feelings of wronged don't immediately and magically dissipate just because of it (they may feel less injured) and I think therapy is a place to tell the therapist how angry or hurt or what it made you. Even if you accept the apology it does not mean one does not get to talk about it -- in my opinion.
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I think one can both have an apology and still be mad. The feelings of wronged don't immediately and magically dissipate just because of it (they may feel less injured) and I think therapy is a place to tell the therapist how angry or hurt or what it made you. Even if you accept the apology it does not mean one does not get to talk about it -- in my opinion.

My T has always clearly made the boundaries about her. "I don't mind getting texts from you but I do need to put my phone aside in the evenings so I can give my family responsibilities attention"
She's totally clear on more attention would probably be GREAT for me but that she is only one person and she's learned what she can and can't do and still take care of herself. She tries to teach me things to do when she can't be available
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I am a bit unclear at what you have quoted from me which was my response to Velcro and her therapist running late and apologizing- has to do with your post.
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I am a bit unclear at what you have quoted from me which was my response to Velcro and her therapist running late and apologizing- has to do with your post.
I think I hit reply on the wrong post. I meant to reply to the one above about who boundaries benefited
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So if therapists - or at least some therapists, plus the professional literature - didn't talk about boundaries so much, they wouldn't be such a big deal?

I wonder if all the talk about boundaries by the profession does more harm than good. As in, clients worry more about putting a foot wrong?
Yes, completely agree with this.

Mine never talks about them either except to tell me that the hospital doesn't allow email except for confidentiality issues. I know if something came up that *was* an issue, she would bring it up.

My old one never taljed about it until she used it as an excuse to not talk about her actions.
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