Couch 153: Couch slouch

You're not the lone ranger there, AY. I am too.

Learning about conditioning right now. Of course I remember generalities but it's interesting getting in depth again. Looking at myself and seeing examples. Like, wearing earrings. I started doing that again recently when I learned that they've changed the formulation or something in the hypoallergenic ones and I can actually wear cheap earrings, even the $2.88 ones from WalMart. I get so many compliments when I wear them at work! Compliments make me feel good. So I've begun associating wearing earrings with feeling good. So what did I do first thing this morning when getting dressed for the day? Put in earrings - even though I'm at home, alone, studying and doing chores. lol

Hey everyone!

Hi Mf! i like your "internet princess" that's cute.

I used to say that a LOT. It was just so HARD.

Ive been hearing that "great job" around recently. Like to little kids. And I think my chiro uses it on me. "Roll over... great job!"

It's an epidemic.

New landlady is in excellent shape (Olympian in comparison to me) and way older than me.

Gosling I believe is also in excellent shape and way younger than me (twenties)?

From these examples, I can only conclude that something happens to the brain when one starts exercising so much? The 'Great job's start to roll out in epic proportions?

I just exercised for 2 1/2 hours and have no desire to tell anyone "great job."

I am at the supermarket and dear lord there is yet another new kind of Oreo, cookie butter. Pretty sure they stole that from TJ's speculoos sandwich cookies.

It's like there's a new kind every time I go grocery shoppng. The Fall is accelerating. I blame Nabisco.

OMG Y'ALL

I've been doing another long string of 70-80h weeks and finally have today off, so I decided to Do Some Self Care and went to get a 30-minute massage. It was *amaaaaaazing*. It was $67 (including a soak in their hot tub afterward), which is pretty steep, but holy crap was it worth it. My body is actually kinda happy, which is a minor miracle

good for you taking care of yourself after working so hard chihiirochild!

after my t kept suggesting i go get a massage for freaking ever i finally did awhile back, it was great, so relaxing. no hot tub though, that would have been even better! i've never gone back though. maybe during my upcoming t break i will go back.....

The reviews online do say that they are amazing.

Cooking crisis

I gouged my finger with my veggie peeler, then deseeded and sliced a serrano chili= misery. But hey there's more, I burned the same entire finger real good on the side of my oven.

Punchline: concert tonight. You can do it, my finger!

(You're doing a great job?)

It was all in the name of escabèche....

I emailed T and asked if it's okay if I come to his game night tomorrow . He sent back of course! So I'm planning on going to it. Feeling a lil nervous but well see

Are they next to the bananas or the broccoli? I mean, i wonder why i never see them??
: horse with blinders on :

I wanna change my name to escabèche! its a great word. And my twin brother, ètouffè.

I'm confused about this game night. He hosts a game night for all his clients? Is the t there too? I'd probably be nervous too.

Yes it's a drop in game nite for his clients and anyone else who wants to come. Yes he plays with us too

informal couch poll: if you said "i love you" to your t and they responded "I know", would that bother you? i know there are couchies who would never utter such a thing to a t, but for those that would....?

This was even a dream "I love you" - not a literal one. I had just read from my notebook that in the dream I had telepathically sent that to her. And she says "I know" in response to a dream "I love you".

Maybe I'm completely off base, but it felt very dismissive. Or it's just cuz it was part of a dream and I wasn't wanting any response at all other than to work with the dream as a whole.

I dunno.

Just curious.

eta: when i've said that to her in the past not as part of a dream, she's responded 'thank you' or 'i'm touched' or even just 'awww' by itself and those were all fine. but this bugs me.

I was a regular at game night. Ever since he first started doing it. But dropped out for a while

I don't think it'd bother me. The first time I told him I love him he said he was touched. One time I asked if he loves me. He said love is a difficult and loaded word especially given my history. And he said I care about you very much.

Would be annoyed. I said this to M and he said "oh, you are so sweet!"

This irritated me. I felt patronized. And.... it had been about 8 years since I had said this to anyone, so I really don't take it lightly. But we never talked about it.

Especially itritating because he says things upon occasion like "you are loved here" and "L and I love you" but never an "I" "love" "you"

And your brotha from anotha mutha, edamame....

We kinda take turns saying it, in that we dont say it at the same time to each other. If i say it, he will say thank you or something like that, then either later in the session, at saying goodbye, or in a next session, he will say it to me (organically, not just out of the blue), by which time i wont feel like saying it, because its where HES coming from at the moment, not me. So then i understand why he didnt say it when i said it earlier.

How often are people at the same place at the same time? And even so, a t does or should try to remain an observer of the moment, as well as participating in the moment as a t.

You know, like how reporters arent supposed to change the story they are reporting - they should just let somebody drown in a hurricane okay, i saw a reporter not offer his jacket to someone at irma, but then someone else did.

I would probably never utter such a thing to a tbut if I did, "I know" would strike me as patronizing and distancing. There's gotta be a way for a to respond to "I love you" that is genuine and feels good to both t and client... maybe if the t couldn't bring herself to say, "I love you too," she could say something like "I'm touched to hear you say that. I care a great deal about you too?" That would feel far less s#!tty to me.