Couch 157: Fair Value

I only get about 5 hours of sleep - but it has been that way my whole life. I can sleep better in the morning or afternoon than I can at night. My usual sleep time is 2-3am to 7-7:30am or if off of school and the pets will allow 5-6 am to 10-11 am and then I can sometimes nap around 2 pm - 6. I think the body changes sleep schedule as we age and a lot of older people sleep less.

I wake up after about 6 hours, consider if i have to pee or not (i think thats what wakes me up), then i just go back to bed. I like to wake up after 11 am nowadays. I used to wake up earlier and enjoyed it. Maybe someday again. But if i exercise, i sleep like a log, seriously.

That's been my experience. I started needing less sleep in my 40's and while I'd love to get 7 hours at a stretch, my body doesn't seem to do that. I tend to sleep 5-6 hours at night and nap at some point during the day. I know my mother was the same way.

Insomnia to me was getting only 2-4 hours a night, sometimes absolutely no sleep for two or three days straight. Those bouts of insomnia inevitably landed me in the hospital. Thank God that finally went away.

Yep!

Spent probably a week indoors binge watching 3 whole seasons in a row.

Hey couchies. My son's dealing with some heavy stuff w one of his good friends right now, and I'm a bit unsettled by it and don't know what to do. Support my son best I can of course. But do I try to get involved more and try to talk to the other kid's parents? From what my son said he doesn't live with them, he's 20 years old, and son says I'd cause more trouble if I did. But I feel like I can't do nothing. Son called his own t already prior to telling me any this to ask if he could bring friend to his session later this week and she said yes. I don't know what to do.

I don't think you can do anything actively until asked. Perhaps being there and listening -but doing/interfering in lives of adults - even young ones - is not a good plan in my opinion. People get to live their own lives and make their own mistakes and have their own struggles even where others do not agree with how they are doing it.
If you have trouble with not interfering -perhaps talking to your own therapist would help you.

Let them deal with it on their own. Sounds like they're supporting each other which is what friendship is about. They are adults. If they want your specific help, they'll ask for it, but it sounds like they have a plan.

(((Artie))) if the kid is going to take the kid to his t, that tells me there isnt the greatest relationship with the parents. So i would treat them as adults, not children, and not feel you have a right nor an obligation to go to the parent.

Thanks folks. What y'all said is h's thoughts too. I gotta let my son grow up. He didn't ask for help, just wanted me to know what was going on because he wasn't around much of the weekend. I know they're adults, all of them are 19 & 20 now, but I guess to me they're still kids. It's just scary and hard. Thanks for being here.

I think the best thing you can do for your son (and indirectly for his friend) is to be available to listen non-judgmentally when/if your son wants to talk. That seems to be the key with young adults: they want space most but then they might also want comfort and support if you can provide it without infringing on their space/privacy/autonomy. Pushing too much is probably the worst thing you can do.

44th birthday, universe gifted me with a giant painful cystic pimple on my chin. Thanks universe.

I'm back to work tomorrow, yippee.

Happy Monday couch!

stressed!

My writing assignment is I have to change the POV of an assignment I already turned in. So because I wanted to make the owner of my sleazy sex pet store in my earlier assignment a therapist but didn’t have space, it’s from her point of view.

Quite satisfying, making a therapist a villain who has no sense of irony.

Happy Birthday Stressed!

Happy B-day, Stressed!

It is, isn’t it. And true to life in a lot of cases.

Stressed -the universe is a bastard.

i'm so tired. of trying. i really don't want to do it anymore.

Whenever i am getting mad at the kittens the dog has to come and put his 2 cents in too.

Put toothpaste on it, it should dry it up overnight? Or i would put a heating pad on it and bother it to death.

The chiropractor is an EXCELLENT matchmaker. Now the podiatrist's receptionists hate me too. I WARNED him i was ticklish! He goes, "well, now we know THOSE nerves work okay!" I swear, he almost killed me, running that burring machine over my heels to remove dry skin? I go, "did my brother put you up to this?!" He goes, "i'm not even a real podiatrist! I flew in last night!"

and stayed at a holiday inn?

I promised some winter photos...

Thats what he said! How did you know?!

Anybody else been getting a cookie message? Ie a computer cookie msg, i havent been able to get on here, so i watched the letterman mark twain prize.

They are magical. thanks capt

I am feeling bad because I was the home tutor for my daughter and I thougth she was watching the video conferences but it turned out she wasn't and now I feel like i failed her somehow. The teacher and case manager at the day program are working with the distance ed people to work on some strategies. I just want to run away and hand all responsibility to someone else. I would like to give it to my ex but he has dyslexia but at least he is more organised than me.