suspended from work until further notice

I NEVER used profanity or done anything stupid on the sales floor before. Maybe I very occasionally did it in the back room. I never dared offend customers.

Also, I remember when I first returned to Sam's, I used to be very careful not to screw around even in the back room. My supervisor used to say I've improved from the first time around and that I'm acting professional. Then the fast food supervisor threatened a restraining order against me, at which point I felt that my world is ending. I felt like life has no point ever since.

I screwed around at other jobs, but definitely not to the extent that I ended up screwing around at Sam's. I sure as hell never did or said anything stupid on the salesfloor. I never before cried over every little things (e.g. spilling coffee) or called coworkers mom and nurses. The fact that I started to shows the extent of my mental breakdown.

I'm not blaming Sam's for me losing that job. I did something wrong and I got what I deserved. Sam's has nothing to do with that fast food supervisor hating me, so they shouldn't have to deal with my mental breakdown. Also, I've already been there 5 years 5 months.

No workplace is going to "tolerate acting out." As long as you choose to act out, you can expect to keep losing jobs. The rules may be different from place to place, but you need to learn those rules and follow them if you expect to stay employed. And that's not got anything to do with anything that's happened to you in the past. I have PTSD from past abuse, but if I acted out on the job, I could expect to be canned too.

Repeat, no place of employment is going to just let you act any old way you want.

The infraction was using profanity on the salesfloor. My coworker asked me where I went and I replied, "pee and ***** room," referring to restroom.

I've been at this company several years total. I had left and came back. I followed all the rules and acted professional until a few months ago (March). I suffered a mental breakdown from what happened at another company and had since screwed around and acted out just to distract myself. Nobody said anything to anyone about it until I recently said it to the wrong person (pee and ***** room).

Now I'm suspended from work until further notice. My supervisor documented it and sent it to employee relations asking them what to do about it. She'll call me when they reach a decision.

The infraction was using profanity on the salesfloor. My coworker asked me where I went and I replied, "pee and ***** room," referring to restroom.

I've been at this company several years total. I had left and came back. I followed all the rules and acted professional until a few months ago (March). I suffered a mental breakdown from what happened at another company and had since screwed around and acted out just to distract myself. Nobody said anything to anyone about it until I recently said it to the wrong person (pee and ***** room).

Now I'm suspended from work until further notice. My supervisor documented it and sent it to employee relations asking them what to do about it. She'll call me when they reach a decision.

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Every workplace will want their staff to behave and do their job. No exceptions to this, even if you went self employed you'd still have to behave around your customers or they wouldn't come back and they'd tell others not to go to you, word of mouth is a powerful thing.

Other employees likely talk about your behavior. Management typically knows.

She said she wants to hear from them if it warrants a termination, so she definitely took me off the schedule for today. However, she also left the rest of my shifts on my schedule in case I keep my job.

She did say she was sorry for having to do this but customers could have heard and be offended. Therefore, her hands are tied. Company policy also said it's usually automatic termination for using profanity. She will reach out to me shortly.

It's just that I act out bc of what the fast food joint did to me. Now I wanna stop blaming that supervisor bc it obviously did me no good. There are a few things I did that's way worse that she didn't know about. Otherwise, I woulda gotten my consequences sooner.

Just wanna clarify: am I senior colleague?
She didn’t seem like she wanna let me go outright.

She did say that she was diagnosed with PD. Just don’t know which one. I thought the same thing. There is the light at the end of the tunnel IF the person takes it seriously and tries to learn some techniques to behave in a more appropriate manner rather than focusing on how the world did them wrong.

I understand it must be hard but what’s the other option but trying to improve.

I really think that ruby isn’t getting the right help.

I NEVER used profanity or done anything stupid on the sales floor before. Maybe I very occasionally did it in the back room. I never dared offend customers.

Also, I remember when I first returned to Sam's, I used to be very careful not to screw around even in the back room. My supervisor used to say I've improved from the first time around and that I'm acting professional. Then the fast food supervisor threatened a restraining order against me, at which point I felt that my world is ending. I felt like life has no point ever since.

I screwed around at other jobs, but definitely not to the extent that I ended up screwing around at Sam's. I sure as hell never did or said anything stupid on the salesfloor. I never before cried over every little things (e.g. spilling coffee) or called coworkers mom and nurses. The fact that I started to shows the extent of my mental breakdown.

I'm not blaming Sam's for me losing that job. I did something wrong and I got what I deserved. Sam's has nothing to do with that fast food supervisor hating me, so they shouldn't have to deal with my mental breakdown. Also, I've already been there 5 years 5 months.

Right. At the time she threatened a restraining order against me, she told my job developer that she’ll file one if I ever return to the store again. So I never did. I guess the feeling of helplessness got me to act out elsewhere.

K thx. I was just wondering bc my consequence doesn’t seem very light.

Well I’m definitely owning it now. I remember in my previous threads when I talked about emotionally devolving and calling coworkers mom and nurse. That was a few months ago and that was the beginning of my unprofessional behavior. Then I started doing other stuff like swearing 🤬 and making inappropriate jokes. I did these things bc I couldn’t cope with the incident at that fast food joint and wanted to distract myself from the hurt. I thought it was ok to act out bc of what happened at the fast food joint. I thought people would understand.

Now I know that the incident at the fast food had nothing to do with my current job and I should’ve moved on. I just hope the decision swings in my favor and I won’t ever behave like that again.

My fast food supervisor threatened a restraining order against me long after I been canned. The reason was bc I went back in to see her. My current supervisor at retail is another person. I behaved myself at my current job before March. My current supervisor said I’ve improved and that I’m behaving professionally. After that, I unraveled.

It sound like the restaurant had a personal problem with you. Instead of you being the victim it sound like they took advantage of you

Have you tried explaining that you were blowing off some steam and without consciously thinking about the future problem it would created because it had never occurred to you that the comment might offend someone or that it could create unseen future problem because it causing problems with your job?

I can see having a talk about what not to do. But unless you cuss out a customer and threaten someone harm. I don't see why you would be suspended or possibly fired I think you should get legal help.

Did you ever seek legal help by having a lawyer investigate the incident that allowed you the equal opportunity to explain your situation? Such as provided for evidence of the wrong doing? Have you threaten to file a lawsuit against the company for future problem?