[cakeladie]

Jan the dog might be just what you need. Someone to cuddle with and is there for you when you don't feel well. I can tell you my guys (boy cats) always know when I am not feeling well and they have even licked my tears off my face.

Jan you might want to try oatmeal, yogurt and stuff like that. If will take a while to get used to your new teeth. My friend has had hers for a few months and when she gets frustrated she takes them out

Kiya girl I hear you loud and clear. I get people are mad about the election heck I am mad about the election. I also get that protesting is everyone's right however when it turns violent and stores are getting broken into and cars are set on fire what good does it show? I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and people here don't seem to need much to protest. The sad thing is some of the stores that they are vandalizing or small business owners. How is that doing any good ? And lighting a police car on fire ? It's outrages.

The other thing I do not get is the high schoolers in our area. San Francisco had over 1,000 students walk out of classes several times this past week. They just walked out. Not only is that dangerous the school looses money for each student not in class and the kids that left could not even vote

So Kiya I know how sacred you are I am to. Also if you need to talk or you get nervous before surgery remember you always have us. Anyone of us will be there for you.

Liz and Christina I hope you guys are holding on

Hugs to all

From Cakeladie, for all of you! Hope you feel better soon.

[cakeladie]

Thanks you little cat.

I don't think many of yup go into the cat humor thread but little posted this there and I tried to copy it here and I just could not so I asked little cat to do it for me.

I thought since a lot of us are struggling lately this would bring a smile to your face. I sure hope it does.

Have a good day guys you are in my thoughts and prayers

[Gus1234U]

to give love, is to have love~

[cakeladie]

Gus you always bring a smile to my face thank you

[Kiya]

All really good points, Cake!! It is outrageous. If they're going to protest they should protest at the government level. Taking it out on small businesses helps nobody. I hope you get to feeling better! And thank you for the support.

[Kiya]

(((((All!!!))))) holding you all close!❤️🌺💖

[lizardlady]

Hi all. Haven't posted here in a bit because I'm tired of listening to myself whine. Whatever was going on with my respiratory system is apparently not a bug. I think there is something in my office that's making me sick. I don't dare complain though since the school gives me the office for free.

Pulled a muscle in my lower back working in the yard Friday. It got a bit better, then a flare hit me on Sunday. The pain of the pulled muscle is buried under the overall pain of the flare.

I'm tired of hurting. I'm tired of being tired. I know this too will pass, but right now I'm tired of it all.

[cakeladie]

Hang in there. I am on my second antibiotic for my respiratory infection

[Gus1234U]

i have been hearing the most alarming things about this latest 'bug', head cold, or what ever it is....
i urge you to treat it with the utmost respect and persistance~!

[January]

((((( Everybody )))))

I hope and pray you all feel better very soon.

Liz and Cake, my brother is on his third round of antibiotics with this crud. I guess it's the same thing.

I got sick in the night with something. It feels like flu, but I've had my flu shot. I have nausea with it, too. My eyes became inflamed and I have had to start on a new round of steroid/anti-inflammatory drops today.

I have sores all in my mouth from the dentures. The dentist adjusted them and gave me numbing medicine to use for seven days. I am not to wear them for at least a week.

The puppy and I are getting along great. I am training her with puppy pads. She's doing great with it, except sometimes she stands on the pad and sticks her bottom over the edge. Oh my!

Last night, I discovered where the guy that threw her away had burned her with a cigarette and left a scar. How can such evil humans live?

I have named her Belle, after Belle in "Beauty and the Beast". She is a lovely, loving girl. I see my t on Fri., if I am well enough, and I'm going to ask him for a letter stating I need Belle for mental/emotional support. If he will, I won't have to pay $300 to keep her. If he won't, I feel if I work hard enough, God will help me get the money. I just can't lose her now.

Gus, thank you for the lovely picture and the warning about the bug.

[cakeladie]

Jan look around in your area for some Organization that can help you get the dog shots and help get the dog fixed if it isn't already.

Also if you PM me with the state you live in and you feel comfortable with the city include that. My daughter has been working at petsmart and they really like her and she really likes it they promoted her to dog trainer and paid for her classes and certification. If there is a pets mart near you I can see if her GM can reach out to you or knows of some place in your area. No guarantees but I will ask her for you

[MISERABLE ME]

Hi everyone I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Osteoporosis a little over a year ago and was wondering how others deal with the chronic pain and how they get along with everyday life in managing.

[Gus1234U]

how lovely to see you again, MM~! not so lovely to find out what is causing your pain, tho.... best wishes~

[January]

Welcome MM. I'm so sorry you're hurting. Stick with us and we'll help you any way we can.

Thank you Cake. You'll be hearing from me. I need all the help I can get with Belle. She hasn't been fixed yet.

Last night, a "friend" yelled at me for an hour and a half about why I never feel well and why I'm not getting better. I told her this is as good as it gets, but she wouldn't take that as an answer. She made me feel hurt and miserable. She also made me quite angry. She thinks I'm not being proactive. I'm doing all I can do. What do you tell well meaning people who just don't get it and turn on you?

Help.

[cakeladie]

Jan it's hard. I pushed myself because I had a mortgage and kids and a hubby. I pushed myself till I crashed and could not work. Maybe just maybe if I had listened to my body and slowed down a little I would have been able to work longer and not have had to spend a year in the hospital.

When I would wake up and could barely move my hubby would say suck it up and I would get so mad but I got up and went into work. It wasn't until I crashed that everyone did an about face turn.

My coworkers and family saw the changes in me but since I fought I fought and kept coming into work and going to cheer gym for my daughter and PTA they assumed it wasn't that bad. When I crashed I crashed hard and almost did not make it. They had to see how bad it was then and it scared a lot of people.

So maybe print out some information or share a link on what fibro is and the side effects of the medicine maybe that will help

[January]

Thank you, Cake. Maybe I can do something like that. I have been so upset and heart sick all day. She made it sound like I was a burden to have around and that if I just try harder or get one of my Drs to give me the perfect medicine, I'd be so much better.

I had a job off the farm since I was 14 and finally had to quit when the Dr. told me I just couldn't go anymore. I tried so hard to "suck it up" and go, but my body and my nerves couldn't take it anymore. You'd think people would understand that you're not healthy when you're disabled. I just don't get their attitudes.

I'm so sorry your husband was so mean to you, Cake. That's not right at all.

[cakeladie]

With lupus a lot of times you don't look sick so if you don't look sick then you are not sick. I slowly started going down hill. Started with a cane then a crutch and a walker massive headaches rashes on my face but since I pushed myself people thought it can't be that bad. Many nights I came home and went right to bed.

I also think that a lot of people don't want to work so they try and get SSDI or SSI. On my lupus forum I can't tell you how many people come on there and say I was just dx with lupus I am going to sign up for SSDI. What why ? You can still work with lupus a lot of people do. You work has long as you can. Just because you get a dx doesn't mean you file ASAP. Does that make sense ?

[possum220]

Hi all, just popping in to say hello. It's wonderful to see the support you help each other with and the practical information too. If I could send you a picture I would send a pictures of a huge bunch of flowers. Very gentle hugs if you want them.

[lizardlady]

Possum, I'll take all the hugs I can get. Thanks.

Jan, I have no helpful advice for dealing with ignorant people. I get so sick of people who don't get it. I used to be friends with a woman who would go on about how unfair it was that I had fibro. She would insist that there had to be something the doctors could do. I repeatedly asked her to please not go on about how unfair it was because I work hard to fight having that kind of mindset. It isn't fair, but focusing on that ain't gonna help. Heck, that kind of thinking just makes me more miserable. She'd also go on about there had to be some medicine I could take to make it "all better." I patiently explained that I'd tried the one med I could take (Lyrica) and could not tolerate the side effects. Told her that I was not able to function if I took pain meds. I finally reached a point that I bluntly told her I didn't want to talk about it anymore.

Cake, I read your comments about pushing until you crashed and wonder if I'm headed that direction.

[cakeladie]

Liz don't do it. You have a lot to live for it almost cost me my life and my career. I spent most of 2008 in the hospital undergoing heavy chemo which is the only thing that will knock my lupus back into place. Because of that I and the drugs they gave me caused the pulmonary fibrous and other issues. So sometimes the drugs do more harm then good.

Try and rest please Liz I don't want to loose you

Take care and rest when u can crashing is no fun

[January]

Liz, please take care of yourself and rest. You don't want to crash. You just don't. You are very important and we love you.

There is some good news. The t gave me the letter for Belle! He said he thinks she will be really, really good for me and also added that he would be happy to discuss it with the director here at the apartments if she had questions or concerns. I am so relieved. I can't say how relieved I am.

Also, I told my friend that she had really upset and hurt me and that this is as good as it gets. She had said some more things I didn't tell you all about and it sliced me like a knife and made me mad also. She apologized and she asked me again tonight if things were ok between us. I think I need to "state my truth" more often when things like this happens, but it's so hard for me to do.

I love you all. I hope you know that.

[lizardlady]

Jan, that's great news about Belle! Good for you for talking to your friend. I'm glad it helped.

Regarding crashing... I'm off work until the 28th. Am going to use the time to rest. Part of this is related to a recent change at work. I'll post my rant about that some other time.

[Gus1234U]

may you have blissful contemplation,
and the causes of blissful contemplation.

The rain is here and so is my monthly curse. I've been sleeping non stop....sweating and burning and hurting and shaking. It comes over me in waves of violence. My own body commits the worst violations against itself and I'm having trouble accepting this sad reality right now. The PULLING pain in my back and sides is taking my breathe away.....I must remind myself to breathe through it. I'm always in battle and rarely feel a victor when it's over. (((Hugs to all those who are suffering in anyway)))