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Also, I noticed something this morning. I feel calm. Calmer than I have felt in a long while. Something has changed.
I had lunch with my sister yesterday. I told her that selfishly speaking, seeing my ex again a couple weeks ago in fact actually helped me to get past him more. I feel more at peace over this ending.... far more than I have felt all this time. I think I found my closure? I am no longer enraged with him, and I don't hold anger inside of me. I think I've let it go? I think seeing him also was a way of saying goodbye, without all the anger that I've more recently carried towards him. This may be a part of why I now feel so peaceful, even amidst all the stress of unemployment. I am also kinda enjoying my time off, ironically. I am glad to be gone from my last job. I wasn't happy there, and I never truly felt a part of the company. I was on the sidelines socially, and it was awkward for me there. I will embrace today this newfound feeling. It feels good... amazing, really.
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Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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I hope I can move on. I feel stuck right now. Not indecision - just not really moving on. Maybe I'll feel differently once the divorce goes through.
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So far, I have zero interviews this week and it's freaking me out. I backed out of continuing to interview for one job recently, one where HR felt I was a really good fit. And now I am questioning my decision because I have no other interviews at the moment. I saw many red flags about this job that made me back out, but maybe I should have continued. ARGH. I hate when I question my decisions. However, the LAST thing I want is to end up in yet another job that I feel I must quickly leave.
I want to land somewhere good and for many years to come. And for this job, I saw several employee reviews talking about how poorly they treat junior employees, how you have to work many late nights and how the company barely contributes to medical insurance, taking it mostly out of your paycheck. The role also is a new position in the company, and I've done that once before, which turned out to be a nightmare for me. I don't want a role that is new to the company. I want one where the path has already been paved, and I want other SEO experts around me, or at least one, so that I can continue to learn from others. I don't want to be the solo SEO person in a whole company. They also changed the job description, AFTER I had already interviewed with HR, so they were molding the job AS they interviewed people. I don't like that.
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Sounds like you made a logical and wise decision not to try for that job. No need to question it. And gosh I know people who don't worry if they have no interviews for a month, let alone a week. I know it's not easy but as you say, you want something for the long-term and thus trying for any job that comes along may not be the best decision. But it's so difficult right now because you are suffering from losing your job and from financial pressure that it's hard to trust your instincts. Hang in there - I do believe you will find something worthy. ![]() |
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Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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Have Hope you can only do what you can do, some work places are better than others
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#538
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YES - and I shouldn't second guess myself when I make a judgement call, weighing in the pros and cons.
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I agree.
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Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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My mother comments that I am in control when it comes to other men. What she means by that is be picky and choosy, and don't just take any man who is interested in you. That's been my MO of the past. I would usually get involved with whatever man showed the most interest in me. So he basically chose me. I want to choose this next go around, whenever that is.
I am noticing that I am getting a lot of attention when I go out. I am not used to this attention given that I've been involved in relationships for a number of years and it's been a long time since I've gone out by myself. It's nice, but I am also guarded. That same dude followed me all over the dance floor last night, trying to buy me a beer. I kept ditching him, hoping he'd get the hint. I look forward to the day when I have females to hang out with.... I will figure that part out. For now, I am enjoying my freedom and quite honestly, the attention can be nice sometimes. My husband made me feel like no man other than him will be interested in me, and that's just not true.
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Great - now my landlord wants to raise my rent by $100 and he wants me to sign the new lease by April 1st. Great - just great.
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The rent won't actually go up until June 1, when my lease renews, so I do have time.
It's just bad timing right now to learn that my rent is being raised and that I have to sign a new lease by April 1.
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Could you go month by month for a few months without signing the lease while you are looking for something else? I did it once years ago and was able to find a better place in a few months of being on being month by month, not a lease.
I understand you live in expensive area but even in expensive areas there are options. Since you work from home perhaps you can live further out and maybe you don’t need two bedrooms or a large place. You said this landlord is a slumlord so it’s fair to assume that this property might not even be in the best of shapes. How does he even justify charging more? And he gives you no time to decide or make plans. |
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#546
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I can try to negotiate him down by $50, which I succeeded in doing last year.
Problem is - in order to move, I would have to hire movers, which I cannot afford. And typically, you have to have 1st month's rent, last month's rent, plus a security deposit to move into a new apartment. The total cost of moving can be $4000-$5000, which I do not have. It's easier and cheaper to stay where I am right now. Sure, I could potentially find a cheaper apt, but without any moving funds, I am completely stuck.
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For real? I am so sorry.
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Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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"Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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I hope you might be able to talk them down again. That sounds like a really high increase to me. What about affordable housing options like co-ops or nonprofits? I'm not talking about government because that can be hard to get into and not pleasant. Here in Vancouver a lot of non-profits don't advertise much so you have to do some digging to find them. We lived in a co-op here with far below market rent and you just had to attend some meetings and commit 10 hours per month to co-op chores. It was fun and we would still be there but we were able to buy a place. I know it's hard to come up with funds to move - I wonder if your nephews could help with moving? It might be worth putting on credit if you would save a lot on a monthly rental. If that's possible. Good luck! |
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