So how old were you when you first started having sexual feelings?

How do you define having a sexual feeling? To make the question less broad, where is the locus of that first sexual feeling being discussed? In the genitalia, heart, or mind?

I am embarrassed to admit this ... one of my earliest memories is my parents finding out that I was masturbating to orgasm (though I had no idea) and them telling me that I couldn't do that. Based on where I was in my memory, I was around 3 years old. I continued to do it in secret virtually every night as I fell asleep and other times when I felt uncomfortable as a way to cope. And - weirdest of all - I can remember doing it at my desk in elementary school and thinking nobody could tell. And nobody ever said word one about it to me so maybe they really couldn't tell.

I am so embarrassed about it that I've never told anyone about it and I avoid conversations about childhood with anyone I grew up with because I'm afraid that they'll say something that will clue me in to the fact that they knew about it. I had a friend who told me a couple years ago that I used to "bounce" in the bed when we'd have sleepovers.

I can't believe I just admitted that. Someone tell me I'm not a freak. lol

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Thank You for your frank posting. I was seven when I first started getting fascinated by my penis, and how good it felt when hard. My sisters friend touched my penis when I had just turned 8, it felt so great and I began to masturbate at that stage in an effort to sustain the pleasure. Like all men I have never lost the joy of the penis....lol

I would touch myself as a kid into teens but it didn't feel sexual. It wasn't till 16 and my first real kiss and then make out sesh that anything felt sexual. It still took years before sex but yeah everything in between was sexual

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At 9 or 10, an older boy who lived downstairs, 14-15 tried to do something to me when I was on the bed, I was too young to understand, but I am ashamed to admit that i remember it feeling good. Don't know what he would have done to me if my mom hadn't stopped him. My mom thought he was wrestling me, but he wasn't.

I initially had a pleasant memory of it but, six years later, after some research, and after reading about other kids that went throug this, I realized what this kid tried to do to me, I was so angry and ashamed of myself.

What's even worse was at age 12-13, I got bullied a lot, and one of my bullies touched my thighs, and i got aroused down there, he noticed it, so he called his buddies and was like 'hey look at this', and he showed them all. they'd all get in on the act, sometimes i would wet myself when they touched me, further adding to my humiliation. This sort of directly led to my discovery of 'self-joy' at night. I am too ashamed to tell you everything the bullies did to me, they'd poke me in the.... anyway, but the bullying stopped at 14, when i grew.

There was this phase where i had no control, at the swimming pool, in the rest rooms, in the showers.

Before all the above, i remember being hugged by a girl my age when we were playing hide and seek and we needed to squeeze together in one spot to hide, i thought it was very cool, but i didn't 'feel' anything, i think she did, but not me.

but im 22-23, never had sex, had at least three opportunities, but didn't want to....

I can remember for sure being 9. I had Harry Potter fantasies.

I was 9 when I got my first sexual feeling prompted by some high schoolers talking about it. I didn't even know what they were at the time, but I felt this sensation rip through my stomach, and at that point, I knew exactly what the hell was going on.
I learned what sex was when I was 11. At that point, I knew that what I had been feeling on and off for the past two--maybe two and a half--years were actually sexual. At that point, I started writing some weird stuff, and about a year after that, my dad put me in rehab, but they couldn't do anything.
I'm very strange about sex now--around adults and in public, I'm very reserved about it; on my own or with either my boyfriend or my girlfriend, I'm crazy!

I remember having something that could be considered sexual feelings when I was as young as 2 as it was a feeling now I know of being turned on. I also had experimentation that I had forgotton about until I started reading these erotica forums again recently. I didn't realize how many I had until I started thinking about it and counting them up. I remember my first was when two classmates were over playing at my house and one said we should suck each other so we did. It was before we could get hard and just seemed like exciting fun. Then with another classmate another time when I stayed the night at his house. Then a couple of times with a neighbor kid. Then once with a neighbor when at my grandparents house which my sister sort of caught us. Then on a camping trip with two others who were also camping with their dads. That was two nights in a row and I remember feeling guilty for the first time about it on the second night but not sure why since if felt nice. Then with an older boy on a farm who was uncut which was the only time I had seen that. He had a penthouse letters mag and the stories were intriging such that he talked me into letting him try to penetrate me. Of course it didn't go in and we really had no idea what we were doing. It just seemed like play that was a little naughty. And the last time was at some out of town friends of family. I can still remember taking turns in the tree house with the two brothers. The older one suggested we should jack each other off but that didn't sound appealing because I didn't know what it was and said no. So I was shocked when I thought about it and added them all up. Just curious how common it was or how outside the normal it is to experiment like that and if you did how it might have affected your desires now. Now that I am grown up it seems like a lot and not normal but just want to know about others opinions.

I have a memory of being in the bath when I would've been around 8 or 9 and I was waiting for my Mum to come and wash my hair. I had an erection but I wasn't really sure what it meant, though I remember it feeling quite sensitive to touch.

My Mum came back in and looked angry at me. Perhaps, looking back, it was more embarrassment than anything else because if it was the first time I remember having a proper erection then it would've been the first time for my Mum seeing it, as well.

Anything after that was probably just being in secondary school and being attracted to girls more and more as the years went by, though I significantly remember masturbating for the first time when I had probably only just turned 14. I was actually playing around with a fetish of mine (which is wearing high-heeled boots) and I just decided to give it a go. I must've been feeling pretty aroused as I'd ejaculated pretty quickly and I was more confused than anything and taken a back by the feeling. I kept trying it through the coming (no pun intended) weeks and the rest is history, as they say.

I'm not very comfortable saying any of this, mind. I'm just pushing myself to be comfortable around everybody here when it's a place for trust and help. I'm not too good at the sharing thing, so my apologies if anything I'm saying is too little or too much.

Ur not alone it was the same for me. Before school age and my parents would scold me and even beat me for it. I did it everyday as much as possible. All the way up to college. Then I just got really wasted with a bunch of military horny guys. I put myself in really bad positions which allowed really bad things to happen and I'm a lesbian.

I tried so hard not to be. I just wanted to once in my life fit in and I instead became a statistic. Now a days I wish I was out then, I could have had a lot more fun.

It's hard to say I can remember when I briefly saw a girl topless on a Florida beach when I was about 10 and liking it, and also remember watching the scrambled porn channel at my grandparent's house (had to watch it there since we didn't have it at my house) probably a year or 2 later so probably about than.

But I can also tell you that I didn't start Masturbating on a regular basis until much much later.

Wow, most ppl I've talked to about this makes me feel atypical. Hit puberty @ 12 and had no conception of sexuality before (raised in a Mormon home). For the first week, I had constant erections so mostly just focused on this new found pleasure I didn't understand. Then I realized that guys were what caused my arousal and that's it. Pretty boring and straight forward.

You know ... boring is good.

I remember when I was about that age getting hard-ons all the time and wondering why they were happening.

The WORST were the unsolicited ones during school or church. LMAO I would freak OUT cuz I wasn't even thinking about anything sexual nor was there any stimuli around that triggered it. It was just suddenly... oh, hello there! And of course I had nightmares that something would happen that would require me to stand up and everyone would see it. Don't miss being an awkward teenager.

I was raised in a strict christian home. My parents didn't talk about sex to me or my siblings. All they said to me was sex was for the woman I would marry. I wasn't allowed to have any sexual thoughts because they thought it was a sin. Including having crushes and/or looking at a girl because I would be having optical intercourse with her.They kept me and my siblings on a tight leash. They also told me all sorts of things to keep me pure. I didn't really notice that I had a sexual drive until I became an adult. And even then I felt guilty.

A girl who lived across the road from us always played with me and hung out. We were around 11 or 12 and we would turn off the lights in the house at night time and play hide and seek and when we would find each other she would lay on the floor in her skirt and cotton leggings and I would lay on top of her bottom and we would just lay there and I remember myself getting hard and we would kiss but nothing more, it sounds silly but we drifted apart over the years, she moved town but we were so close at that age.

I remember I had sexual impulses as a toddler in kindergarten (I would have been 4). There was this girl who I was "close" to, and on occasion I would be driven like a moth to a flame by this incredibly powerful impulse to hug her as tight as possible. I imagine she was very confused (as was I since I didn't really understand what I was doing or what to do). I can recall there was definitely a sense of frustration coupled up with all that other emotion since I was clearly looking for some outlet for these infantile sexual feelings, but didn't know how to obtain it.

I find this very bizarre. First off, because in my experience puberty is a process not a moment in time. Girls have their first period but boys don't have a similar event to compare it to. I for one had many erections (which I didn't really understand as arousal) long before I developed any pubic hair. I started masturbating (first rubbing on things, later jacking off) around 11.

One reason that would explain why you felt you had to have sex in order to gain love and acceptance from men would be tv and movies. A few examples would be fast times at ridgemont high(FTRH) and all the right moves (ATRM). FTRH opens up with girls at work in the mall discussing sex. An older girl (17yo) tells the younger girl (14yo) that in order for a 21 year old man to take her out on a date she must go and have sex with him, which happens. Later on the younger girl tells the older girl how much the sex hurt and the older girl informs he that it gets better and better and she must keep doing it or boys/men will not want to go out with her. The second example ATRM is a movie abut a high school football player and the relationship he has with his girlfriend. Early in the film, after a big game he is out with his girl in the car and he keeps pushing to go further sexually with his girlfriend till he pushes her to the point where she is no longer comfortable. He gets enraged and aggressive towards the girl. She has the look of extreme fear on her face. However, what she is afraid of is him leaving her for he unwillingness to have sex with the man. You see the media has put out messages in America that sex is required out of a woman in order for them to be accepted by men. These movies are just two I could come up with off the top of my head. I am a male and I too fell into this pit. I believed that this was acceptable and indeed at one point felt this to be the way things were and should be. I passed up lots of opportunities to have beautiful relationships with mental and spiritual meaning because of a lack of sexual involvement. I am 31 and I know after 3 long term relationships built on the misguided beliefs of "sex in excess" that sex is a small component of a relationship. Sex is of course a means of reproduction, but it is also a way to be intimate with your special partner, draw two people closer in a way that is unique and special that no others get to partake in with you. We grew up in a time where moral values and intimacy were horribly misguided.

My mother and father were very open people when I was a child. Not so much anymore. I was born in the early 80s so my parents were the turn hippies, the babies of the boomers. My parents were alive and kicking during the "sexual revolution". I have a vivid memory of myself asking my parents where do babies come from at 4 years old. And my flower child mom pulled out a 300 level college text book on sexual education and psychology that she had for her own knowledge and began teaching me from this book. By the end of the lesson I had learned that not all men had the same shaped penis and that not all women's breast looked the same. But, most importantly, I knew in detail where babies came from. She saw that the college text book was above my capacity at 4 years old and the next day I received a book called the truth about sex. This book I referred to a lot as I grew up and absolutely showed all my friends. This book discussed puberty, body development, sexual abuse, masturbation, sexual relationships, teen pregnancy and its consequences, as well as planned pregnancy. A really good book for any young person with questions. My mother read this book to me when I was not able to myself. Question: What do you want to do once you have taken drivers education? Drive, right. So once I received my sexual education I wanted to have sex. I did not pursue it actively as a teenage boy all day everyday, but I would find myself on play dates and through conversation I would ask girls to attempt sexual acts with me. All we ever did was lay on top of each other. The mechanics of sex were still not fully clear. I made attempts a lot growing up. 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12 all with no success. Each attempt at sex was not pre planned, just opportunities that came up, being alone in a room unsupervised. About 10 years old I actually began masturbation and had my first fluid producing orgasm at 11 years old. About 12 is when girls got there full sexual education and the fear of pregnancy was installed in them. That is when the opportunities I spoke of were no more. Which was for the best. People that young do not need to have sex. It distorts their ideas of what is love and what is not. I think a lot of people practiced sex as children until they became more mature and realized that sex is not something you just do with anybody anytime.

Reading y'all responses to this thread makes me feel a little less like a freak, but still alone. For me it started at 4. I remember one day watching something about the Jackson 5 and thinking that young Michael Jackson was cute. Then the next thing I know I felt something down there. I had no idea what was going on, but I knew it wasn't something anyone else was suppose to know. The feeling continued and led to sex dreams. In the dreams I was an adult standing in a field with my boyfriend. Next thing I know I'm looking at the sky and I had a good, but strange feeling. I didn't tell anyone that this was happening because I felt bad and ashamed. I never heard my friends talk about anything like that, so I thought it was a bad thing. One night when I was 5, I woke up and wanted to watch cartoons. Back in the 80's there were no 24 hour cartoon station. I was flipping through the channels and came across Cinemax. There was a dirty movie on. I got that strange feeling down there and liked what I saw. After that I woke up just about every night to watch Cinemax. By the time I was 6 I had desires to copy what I was seeing in the movies and that scared me so much that I didn't want to be around any male of any age without a woman around. I was afraid of what I might try to do. The feelings kept getting stronger and the dreams more detailed. My mother had "the talk" with me when I was 12. The dreams finally stopped, the desire went a way, and the constant strange feeling started to decrease. It all came back at 16 when I got my first boyfriend. I lost my virginity at 21. When I was 12 I had decided to wait for marriage, but once I realized that my now husband was the one I gave him my virginity. I masturbated for the first time at the age of 12. I discovered it by accident one day while playing in my covers.

I started masturbating around age 5 or 6. I had absolutely no idea it was masturbation (or anything sexual) until my teens - even though I got the sex talk around age 10 (strange, apparently. Once in a while online I'll find threads like this and I'm always surprised how many people's parents never talked to them about sex. My mom explained it to me and recall being disgusted), somehow what I was doing never registered as sexual. I would just keep rubbing with some bunched up blankets until I felt a certain release. It's usually been to certain types of fantasies - more like mental videos not involving myself but always involving certain kinds of situations I guess I have a fetish for.

Oh, and sometimes I'll wake up horny around 4am or so. No real reason. I"ve never looked at porn either; never had the interest.

I've only had sexual feelings for a few actual people. I tried cybersex with someone (who I really liked, too!) and got bored halfway through. I'm just now (age 22) starting to really register people as attractive. Outside of my mind though, I tend to find the idea of actual sex disgusting. Most of the time it just isn't on my radar, at all. I'm more likely to imagine cuddling up to someone than f!ing them.

13/14. But several of my peers had feelings at 11 and acted like horny. May be even before that. Not sure if they were really horny or just acting out.

I really don't....all my emotions and feelings has been fragmented to other alters. We have fems and males and a lot of alters of which a few jobs are just sex. We are all over the gender spectrum. They are very sexual Others, but I know the fem emerged when we was about 7. The guys were created later.